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Why Do Cats Sit On You? 6 Vet-Reviewed Reasons

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Any cat owner can tell you that there’s no greater feeling than when their cat climbs onto their lap. Cats are sometimes perceived to be aloof and independent, so when your little fur ball sits on you, it can feel like you’re the chosen one. Though you’re probably on cloud nine when your cat chooses your lap to be their hangout, you’re probably wondering “Why does my cat sit on me?” when you’ve spent hundreds of dollars cultivating a pet-friendly environment full of cat trees, beds, and other cozy features like blankets.

Read on to learn the most common reasons why your cat sits on you.

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The 6 Reasons That Cats Sit on You

1. Affection

Perhaps the most common reason cats sit on your lap every chance they get is because they want to give and receive affection. Though cats have a bad reputation for being aloof and uncaring, most owners know this isn’t the case for most cats. Your cat wants to get up close and personal with you to show that they love and appreciate you.

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2. Warmth

Cats are known for seeking warmth. For some cats, crawling into your lap is akin to us cozying up inside a warm blanket and relaxing on a free afternoon. Your cat might be seeking your lap not just for affection but for warmth as well. Kittens, cats that are unwell, have sparse or no hair (such as the Sphynx), and cats that are underweight may struggle to thermoregulate well and as such may seek you out for warmth.


3. Safety

Though you know your cat is safe in the comfort of your home, they don’t always realize that. Your kitties may be choosing to sit on your lap simply because it provides them with a place where they can finally feel safe. Cats instinctively prefer resting places where they’ll feel secure and protected from potential predators, and there is no better place to be protected than on the lap of their loving owner. Though we’ll never know if they think you’ll be there to chase away any threats that come around, it’s still nice to know that our cats may see us as a safe space.

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4. Possession

Cats rely quite a bit on their sense of smell as a way to communicate with the world around them. You’ve likely seen your kitty rubbing their face on objects around your home and have probably even been the recipient of a face rub now and then. This activity deposits your pet’s scent and marks the object (or person) as “theirs”. When your cat sits on you, they could be marking ownership of you.


5. Comfort

Your body may provide comfort and be soothing for your kitty, just as your cats’ purrs are calming and relaxing for you. Between your body heat, a familiar scent, the sound of your voice, and the rhythmic beating of your heart, it’s not hard to see why your lap would become a comforting place for your pet.

tabby cat lying on its owners lap infront of a book while they are reading
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6. Breed

While each individual kitty comes with their own personality traits, some breeds are known for their particularly cuddly tendencies. Persians, Ragdolls, Siamese, and Tonkinese cats typically make fantastic lap cats, though this isn’t always the case. A cat’s breed doesn’t 100% dictate their end personality, but it can certainly impact it.

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What if My Cat Doesn’t Sit on Me?

If your cat doesn’t sit on you, try not to take it too personally. It doesn’t mean they don’t like you; some just simply aren’t wired to become snuggly lap cats. That doesn’t mean they won’t change their stance throughout the duration of their lives, though. They may surprise you one day by climbing into your lap when you least expect it.

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Final Thoughts

So, why do cats sit on you? Cats will cozy onto their owner’s lap for many different reasons, but if your kitty chooses to sit on you, one thing is clear: they love and appreciate your presence. Whether they’re using your body for comfort, warmth, or security, consider it an honor as your sweet pet has chosen you to be their person. However, if your kitty is more likely to choose your sofa or their cat bed over a spot to sit on your lap, don’t take it too personally. There are plenty of other ways you can bond with your pet.

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