Get

In Your Inbox

Catster is reader-supported. When you buy via links on our site, we may earn an affiliate commission at no cost to you. Learn more.

How Do Cats Play with Humans? Vet-Reviewed Feline Behavior

cat playing with owner

Watching two cats play together can be a ton of fun because of the spirited and silly antics they get up to. However, these playful actions often don’t carry over to playtime with humans. It can be difficult to determine if your cat is playing with you. Some cat behaviors are somewhat mysterious to us, while others are more straightforward, but it is extremely uncommon for a cat to attempt to play with a human as if they’re another cat.

If you’ve ever wondered how cats play with people, keep reading for more information.

divider 3 paws

How Do Cats Play with Humans?

Believe it or not, recent studies have begun working to debunk the long-held belief that cats don’t form bonds with their people. These studies have indicated that cats can form close bonds with humans, often seeing them as a source of comfort and stress relief. One of the ways you strengthen the bond you have with your cat is by participating in activities that are enjoyable for your cat.

This means determining which activities are most enjoyable for your cat and when they enjoy them. High-energy cats may do well with random games at any time of the day, while lower-energy kitties may prefer more set playtime schedules. Some cats may want to play chase or leap for a teaser toy, while others may be content to “help” you solve a food puzzle or participate in a laid-back game with a simple toy. Laser pointers, teaser toys, and fetchable toys are all great options for interactive playtime with your cat.

Remember to work to incorporate a variety of fun and interesting toys into playtime with your cat. Use a variety of shapes, sizes, textures, smells, and sounds to stimulate your cat’s senses and encourage healthy play. Get creative! Some cats love playing with something as simple as a balled-up piece of paper or a bottle cap. Just make sure to avoid toys that can be swallowed by your cat, like rubber bands and small pieces of plastic.

woman lying beside brown cat
Image Credit: Oleg Ivanov, Unsplash

How Not to Play with Cats

One of the biggest mistakes that people make when finding ways to play with their cat is playing with them in a way that is stressful for the cat. This can lead to you unintentionally telling your cat that you are not a source of security and safety for them, which may even lead to a breakdown in the trust level between the two of you.

One of the most common inappropriate forms of play people attempt with their cats is roughhousing. Cats are predators by nature, and they’re not fans of being manhandled by another predator, like a human. It can be very stressful for your cat to be tackled, grabbed, or pinned down by you, even if your intentions are playful.

Another mistake that people often make is using their hand or forearm as a cat’s “target.” When cats engage in what we call play, they’re in fact honing their hunting skills. If you associate your hand as a target for a kitten, they may grow up to take pleasure in “hunting” your hand during playtime. A cat’s claws and teeth are more than capable of drawing blood if they decide to wrestle with your hand or forearm. Instead, you should hold something that your cat can play with, like a feather toy.

Toys like laser pointers can be lots of fun for cats, but they’re best used in a rotation of fun and interesting toys since your cat will never be able to “win” the game by catching the laser light.

One of our preferred scratchers, the Hepper Hi-Lo Modern Cat Scratcher, is a surefire way to keep your kitty out of trouble (or at least away from scratching the things they should not!). It's not only stylish, but it's functional as well. It's made of sturdy cardboard with a durable plywood and metal frame and can be set up in three different ways – high, low, or lower. The different positions encourage maximum engagement, exercise and stretching, and of course, intense scratching (they can throw their whole body into it). 

Hepper Hi-Lo Cardboard Cat Scratcher with Real...
  • Premium Materials - Hepper's cardboard scratcher is made with dense, B-flute cardboard, and a metal...
  • High, Low and Lower - A single cat scratch pad won't keep your cat engaged. 3 unique positions keeps...
  • Activates Muscles - The Hi Lo isn't just a cat nail file to stop the chief cat couch scratcher. The...

With the Hepper Hi-Lo, your cat gets to have a blast scratching like a maniac, and you don't have to worry about them causing so much chaos or scratching your stuff. There are even replacement cardboard pieces available, so you really can let your cat go to town on this, and know that it will be long lasting. Click here to learn more about this awesome scratcher.

At Catster, we’ve admired Hepper for many years, and decided to take a controlling ownership interest, so that we could benefit from the outstanding designs of this cool cat company!

divider 3 paws

In Conclusion

There are a variety of ways you can play with your cat, but you should always keep in mind that play should be entertaining, not stressful for your cat. Stressful playtime can lead to increased stress levels for your cat in the long run and reduced trust between you and your cat.

Your cat is likely very bonded to you, and they will be extremely happy to find games you can play together. By using a little creativity, you’ll be able to put together a stash of fun and interesting toys on rotation for your cat. You’ll also be able to come up with various games the two of you can play together that help strengthen your cat’s association with you and positive feelings and situations.


Featured Image by: Dora Zett, Shutterstock

Want content like this delivered to you?

Sign Up For Our Newsletter

News, insights, expert advice, and everything cat

* By submitting, you agree to our Terms & Conditions and Privacy & Cookies Policy.




How useful was this post?

Click on a star to rate (you can leave written feedback after clicking submit)

Help us improve Catster for pet parents!

Your feedback really matters.

What did you like about this post? Also how can we improve it?

Join the conversation

Leave a Reply

You’re very welcome to leave a comment or question. Please know that all comments must meet our community guidelines, and your email address will NOT be published. Let’s have a positive and constructive conversation.


Talk With A Vet Online

Peace of mind,
anywhere, anytime

Affordable vet advice

How to Give Your Cat Medication: Dr. Karyn’s Tips (with Video)

Hi, I’m Dr. Karyn! Read my introduction to learn more about me and meet my five hilarious cats: Clutch, Cyril, Alex, Zelda, and...

What Human Foods Can My Cat Eat on Christmas? 10 Good Options

Holidays are a time to celebrate family. For 45.3 million American households, that may include your cat1. We certainly understand why. Felines are...

Does My Cat Have a Sense of Time? Vet-Reviewed Science

Time is a mysterious concept that we use to keep up with our daily lives. We don’t know how it started or whether...

How to Find a New Vet: 9 Steps to Follow (Vet-Approved)

Choosing a new veterinarian for your beloved furry friend is a crucial decision that can significantly impact their health and happiness. Whether you’ve...

More related

15 Free DIY Catio Plans That Are Perfect For the Outdoors (With Instructions)

Many of us keep our cats indoors for safety reasons, but it’s also nice to enrich their lives by allowing them outside to...

Kinkalow Cat Breed: Info, Pictures, Temperament & More

Because of their rarity, you might not have heard of a Kinkalow before, but their appearance likely makes you curious, and we can’t...

The Battle of the Sexes – Which One Makes A Better Pet?

Hi, I’m Dr. Karyn! Read my introduction to learn more about me and meet my five hilarious cats: Clutch, Cyril, Alex, Zelda, and...

Is Lidocaine Safe For Cats? Our Vet Discusses Safety & Risks

Even though cats typically aren’t as vocal or outwardly expressive of their pain as canines, they do still experience pain, leading veterinarians to...

Keep reading

Is String of Pearls Toxic to Cats? Vet-Verified Toxicity & Safety

Plants are a popular decoration for adding a little nature to your home. Especially with more people than ever working from home, adding plants to our surroundings has experienced a real boom in popularity. But many plants, like the string...

Catster_Is String of Pearls Toxic to Cats

Why Do Cats Rub Their Face on Corners? 5 Vet-Verified Reasons

Cats often engage in behaviors that leave us feeling puzzled or confused. Even though we might find them to be strange, many of these behaviors are normal for cats. New cat owners may be surprised by just how much their...

Tricolor ginger white and back cat rubbing his cheek against the garden corner table

11 Best Cat Foods in Canada in 2026 – Reviews & Top Picks

Did you know that around 50%-60% of Canadian pets are considered obese?1 Obesity is a serious health concern for cats as it increases their risk of developing potentially life-threatening conditions like cancer and heart disease.2 The good news is that...

grey cat eating food

Do Cats Attack Intruders? Feline Guarding Skills Exposed

There are videos on social media that show a cat defending a person, sometimes even chasing off an animal more than twice their size! So, does this mean cats are capable of guarding people and homes? While not all cats...

angry cat meowing outdoor

Can You Put a Flea Collar on a Pregnant Cat? Vet-Reviewed Precautions & Risks

Cat flea collars use a form of insecticide to repel, deter, or kill fleas. They can be used in conjunction with spot-on treatments or independently, though owners do need to be aware of the potential risks associated with flea collars....

Collar for animals protecting against fleas

Why Do Cats Like Bathrooms? 10 Vet-Reviewed Reasons

Anyone who is a cat parent is familiar with their cat following them into the bathroom or making noise if the door is closed without them being let inside. So, why on earth do cats seem to love the bathroom?...

british shorthair cat peeps from the bathtub

Can Cats Eat Roast Beef? Vet Reviewed Benefits & Concerns

It is difficult to ignore the urge to spoil our pets. After all, we do it all the time for ourselves, so we want to give our lovely cat a tasty treat from our plate. But before you give human...

Can Cats Eat Roast Beef

Are Angel Plants Poisonous to Cats? Vet-Approved Facts and Toxicity Guide

Angel Plants, or Exotic Angel Plants, is a reputable brand of houseplants that sells over 400 different types of plants. Because the term “Angel Plants” isn’t referring to a specific plant species, it’s impossible to say if they’re poisonous to...

Catster_Are Angel Plants Poisonous to Cats

Love Cats? So Do We! Join the Catster Community

Stay informed with expert pet care insights delivered straight to your inbox! Discover professional guidance on animal behavior, feeding tips, trusted product picks, and much more.




Sign up for the Catster Email Newsletter

Stay informed with expert pet care insights delivered straight to your inbox! Discover professional guidance on animal behavior, feeding tips, trusted product picks, and much more.