Do you live with an insecure and fearful cat?
You probably are familiar with the behaviors. Kitties show they’re feeling insecure and fearful in a number of ways. She may be a ghost cat — your only hints that you share a home with a kitty are the empty food bowls in the morning and the obvious signs she’s used the litter box. She may also regularly retreat under the sofa or bed. These are perfect locations for checking out what’s going on in the household without being detected. Or, she may exhibit her fear by picking and choosing: warming up only to family members while running from visitors. An insecure kitty might also urinate on your or other family members’ clothes and pillows. Others use their teeth and claws when cornered or picked up against their will. They feel they have no other options. On the other hand, depending on the individual cat, she may become clingy, constantly seeking attention from her favorite person.
Some cats react more fearfully to specific circumstances than others do. It depends on each cat’s personal history, personality, and triggering events. It is easy to identify some of these kitties when they are scared and insecure — others are subtler, making it difficult to detect their angst.
Behaviors driven by fear and insecurities help felines survive in hostile and unsettling environments. Although most household kitties do not live in inhospitable and threatening situations, they have legitimate reasons for the behaviors. Here are some of the common ones:
Although it won’t happen overnight, many insecure kitties can be encouraged to feel safe and secure.
Set up the environment
The majority of fearful cats need their own rooms where they can start feeling safe. Ideal safe rooms are quiet, without sudden noises and activity. Bedrooms can be ideal sanctuaries. Many cats check out their people while they sleep.
No other resident animals are allowed in the room, unless the little one has a buddy. Bonded friends should always be together — separating them can cause both of them to become stressed. Kitties who habitually hide under furniture shouldn’t be allowed outside the room until they are feeling brave enough to venture out of their sanctuaries.
Here are tips on optimizing the safe environment:
Encourage your cat to feel safe
After her room is set up, the work begins. Depending on the cat’s level of insecurity, one person may have to be designated as her buddy and earn her trust. Other family members can start interacting with her after she starts feeling secure.
The key to help her overcome her fears is ensuring she has positive experiences around people. Whenever anyone enters her room, something needs to happen that she likes. If she is a foodie, then every visit needs to include treats or meals. If she is a player, then entice her with novel toys.
Keep in mind, you are on the cat’s schedule. It may take days, weeks, or longer until she feels safe enough to join the rest of the household.
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Marilyn, a certified cat behavior consultant, owner of The Cat Coach, LLC, solves cat behavior problems nationally and internationally through on site and Skype consultations. She uses positive reinforcement, including environmental changes, management, clicker training and other behavior modification techniques.
She is also an award winning author. Her book Naughty No More! focuses on solving cat behavior problems through clicker training and other positive reinforcement methods. Marilyn is big on education — she feels it is important for cat parents to know the reasons behind their cat’s behaviors. She is a frequent guest on television and radio, answering cat behavior questions and helping people understand their cats.