8 Tips for Bringing a Shy Cat Out of Her Shell


A while back, I wrote about Tara, the “surprise kitty” who came into my life a couple of months ago. Well, it turns out that my surprise kitty is also a very shy cat. She loves people, but she’s easily overwhelmed by her environment and by other cats, so I’ve been working with her in hopes of helping her learn to enjoy the whole house and her feline roommates. Here are some tips based on my experience with Tara.

Shy cat Tara gets some love.
Tara gets some love from her mama. Photography courtesy JaneA Kelley.

1. Give her a room of her own

Sure, this is classic New Cat 101, but it’s especially important when you’re dealing with a fearful or shy cat. One room gives her a reasonable amount of space to call her own but won’t overwhelm her with too much newness all at once.

2. Use pheromones

One of the primary causes cat anxiety is the feeling like she’s walking into a home that belongs to other cats. A shy cat feels this overwhelming sensation even more. Feline “happy cat” pheromones, whether in the form of a plug-in diffuser, spray, wipes, or collars, can go a long way to help relieve a cat’s territorial anxiety.

Tara creeps out from under the bed
Whenever your shy cat comes out of hiding, tell her how brave she is and give her lots of love.

3. Give positive reinforcement

Tell your shy cat how brave she is when she comes out from hiding and allows herself to be petted. Do this often. The more you say it, the more you’ll believe it, and the more you believe it, the more she’ll believe it.

4. On the other hand, don’t reinforce fearful behaviors

I made this mistake for a while with Tara: I’d pet her while she was hiding in the closet, which got her thinking that hiding leads to good things. As soon as I realized I was reinforcing behavior I didn’t think was helpful for her, I refused to pet her while she was in the closet. I’d just give her a sad look and say, “I wish I could pet you, but I just can’t while you’re in there.” Eventually, she got the point.

Tara hides between the dresser and the hamper
When your shy cat hides, don’t reinforce the behavior by petting or giving food.

5. Build her confidence

Play is a great way to build a shy cat’s confidence. Of course, if your shy cat is anything like Tara, it’ll take quite a while before she’ll feel comfortable enough to engage in any interactive play. But don’t give up; she’ll come around eventually, especially if you’re using a super-tantalizing toy.

6. Test and expand her challenge lines

A challenge line is one past which you can’t go before a cat has a negative reaction, whether that is attacking or hiding. Tara is extremely food-motivated, so by gradually moving her dish closer to the door, I’ve been able to expand her horizons — even if those horizons run from one side of my bedroom to the other.

Tara eating by the door
I feed Tara by the door of “her” room to give her more ownership of the space.

7. Make hiding spots inaccessible

After Tara’s confidence started to rise and she realized I wasn’t going to pet her while she was in the closet, I made it impossible for her to open the closet and get inside by wedging a thick piece of folded cardboard between the sliding doors. Trust me, she tried; I heard lots of plucking and rattling at the closet door, but she eventually realized she wasn’t going to have that hiding spot anymore. She’s coped just fine.

8. Ask your vet about anti-anxiety medication

Sometimes shy or fearful cats need a short course of psych meds to break out of a negative cycle. I did go this route with Tara, and I kind of wish I hadn’t waited so long. Shortly after she got her first dose, I picked her up and brought her into the living room with me; she settled onto my lap and purred for hours. I admit that is the first and last time she’s felt that comfortable in the living room, but I haven’t given up on meds yet.

Tara gets a hug from JaneA
It takes patience and persistence, but sooner or later your shy cat will come around.

Have you had a shy cat or dealt with cat anxiety before? What did you do to help her feel more courageous and start exploring all of her environment? Please share your tips in the comments.

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About JaneA Kelley: Punk-rock cat mom, science nerd, animal rescue volunteer and all-around geek with a passion for bad puns, intelligent conversation, and role-play adventure games. She gratefully and gracefully accepts her status as chief cat slave for her family of feline bloggers, who have been writing their award-winning cat advice blog, Paws and Effect, since 2003.

3 thoughts on “8 Tips for Bringing a Shy Cat Out of Her Shell”

  1. I adopted a shy cat from the pet store on October 4th 2018
    She is in my room and I keep the door closed. She hid behind my bathroom door then the toilet. Thursday night she was under my bed. When I got up to get ready for work on October 5th she was under the bed and used the litter box and ate her wet food
    When I came home from work on Friday morning she was no where in sight
    My bed is under the window so I know she is up in the ceiling. I called her name and no meow. If she was in distress I would here her cry. I’m really worried about her she is 1.5 years old. Some times I hear movement in my ceiling. She was a stray then in foster care then to the vet for a spay then to the pet store then to my place. I wonder how long she will hide till she feels relaxed. She hasn’t eatin or drank anything since yesterday morning or used the litter box.im really worried and crying

    1. Hi Kari,

      Sorry to hear about this. We suggest trying to get your cat to come out using some tasty food or treats or maybe catnip.

      We also suggest contacting the shelter / rescue where you got her for specific advice.

    2. Did you ever find your kitty, Kari? Whatever happened?

      I’m dealing with a shy outdoor cat now, I think he is stray but may be feral. He’s SUPER shy of all humans. Even though I’ve been feeding him for over a month every night. He sees me and runs off. I wanna get him more comfy with me, he always hides, but still watches me….

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