Cats love to wrestle and play, but they also fight. Even if you have two litter siblings that have lived together their whole lives without any problems, there is a chance that something can change. One might get carried away, or the dynamic in the relationship might change for some reason, and what was once playing can quickly escalate to become proper fighting. You should have a good idea of your cats and how they behave, but you can use these six steps as a guide if you want to tell whether your cats are playing or fighting.
The 6 Ways to Tell If Cats Are Playing or Fighting
1. If It’s Quiet, It’s Probably Playing
If your cats are rolling around with little to no noise apart from the occasional meow or chirp, there’s a good chance it is only playing. Cats don’t vocalize their playtime in the same way that they do their fights. The occasional meow or chirp you hear is likely one cat telling the other they got a bit carried away.
2. If There’s Growling, It’s Probably Fighting
If you hear aggressive noises, it is turned into a fight. Aggressive cat noises include growling, hissing, and spitting. Your cat will not make this noise if they are only playing, and they will reserve yowling for a proper fight. If it sounds serious, it probably is.
3. Ears Back Means Stress
Cats are good at non-verbal communication, and their ears can be highly expressive. They act as an effective barometer of their emotions. During a play or fight session, if their ears are straight up or forward, they are probably playing. If their ears are folded back, there is a good chance that the cats are involved in a fight, and you may need to intervene.
4. There Are Other Physical Signs of Confrontation
A cat’s fur will stand straight up, with their tail erect and upright, and their eyes will be dilated if they are involved in a real fight. If their body language looks relaxed, they probably feel relaxed and enjoy rough play. If they look tense, they might be scrapping for real.
5. They Take Turns to Play
It is common, especially among littermates, for cats to share the role of top cat during a wrestling match. Watch them together: If they are swapping and taking turns to be the cat on top, there’s a good chance that they are playing.
One of your cats may prefer to always play at being the top cat. This is fine as long as it isn’t a problem for the other cat.
6. If They Don’t Know Each Other, They’re Not Playing
If one of the cats is new to your home and they don’t know your cat, it is doubtful that they are playing. Cats will not usually play with other cats they don’t have a relationship with.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I Let My Cats Play Fight?
Play, when it is genuine, is fun and healthy. It enables your cat to get exercise and allows them to vent a little energy with one another. It could also save your furniture and even your arms. As long as one cat isn’t overly aggressive toward another, it’s safe and natural.
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Do Cats Bite Each Other When They Play?
All feline play is mock aggression, which means that your cats are pretending to fight one another. Fighting involves biting, so it is common for cats to bite and nibble one another as part of a game. The bite should not be as severe as a proper fight bite but should not be discouraged unless it is hurting the other cat.
How Do You Break Up a Cat Fight?
If your cats are playing and get a bit carried away, simply talking to them may be enough to get their minds off it and stop them from scrapping. If it becomes serious, clap your hands, or make noise with a can—don’t direct toward them, though. The idea is to get their attention without reinforcing what they are doing and without trying to get in between them. Being stuck between two warring cats can be dangerous and painful.
Will My Cats Ever Stop Fighting?
If it’s play fighting, the cats will end their scrap and go about their day as usual. If it’s a real fight and an isolated or rare incident, one likely got carried away, and they should be friends again soon. If it is regular, you may have to take steps to try to positively socialize them. If things are really bad, it may require an animal behaviorist.
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Additional Information
Are My Cats Playing or Fighting?
To cats, playing is just mock fighting. They pounce, hit, roll, wrestle, scratch, and even bite one another. As long as it’s a game and neither cat is getting injured, it is not only acceptable but should also be considered a beneficial part of growing up. However, some cats do fight, and if there is growling, puffed-up fur, or hissing, you need to discourage the fight.
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The 6 Ways to Tell If Cats Are Playing or Fighting
2 Responses
When my two cats are play fighting one of my cats gets hurt because it cries out in pain. I'm not exactly sure which one it is but it sounds more like my neutered male. My female Torbie is much more aggressive when play fighting and has a lower octave voice than my Scottish Straight. My Torbie is a rescue from a shelter in Jan this year (2024) and my SS has been with me since he was 3mo. He is now 3 yrs. He was neutered just before 6mo. This pain issue with play fighting has happened just in the past month, Aug/Sept 2024. Torbie was left at Muni kill shelter by previous owners who also had other animals. She is supposed to be spayed. At least that's what the shelter told me. Sometimes I wonder. I think she has had at least one litter because everytime she hears kittens crying on tv she runs to find them.
I don't know what to do about this painful biting by Torbie.
Dear Kathleen,
thank you for your question. We are sorry to hear about the struggles with your two cats.
Play fighting in cats is quite usual, however when it turns into aggression, there could be an issue that needs to be tackled.
We would like to suggest you some of our articles on this matter:
Cat Fighting Sounds: With Videos & Body Signals – https://www.catster.com/cat-behavior/cat-fighting-sounds/
Play Aggression in Cats: How to Prevent & Correct It – https://www.catster.com/cat-behavior/play-aggression-in-cats/
How to Stop Cats From Fighting: 5 Vet-Reviewed Tips & Tricks – https://www.catster.com/cat-health-care/how-to-stop-cats-from-fighting/
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If nothing helps, we would recommend you to set up an appointment with one of our veterinarian experts at www.PangoVet.com. They will be happy to talk the situation through with you.