October 2nd 2009 5:49 pm
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There are lots of types of twofers out there, and ours seems to be an overthinker type!!! She has spent the last couple months thinking and thinking about letting another kitty move in. And she started double thinking abou it when Miss Seybah founded Auntie Kaye (Pooh and Biscuity's family). Now we are pretty sure we are at least going to let Seybah come visit and see how we like her.
Don't get us wrong mommy definitely likes change. But she loves us and is sooo worried how a third kitty might change our personalities or upset us (especially Winnie Bea).
We would like you guys to help us think about this, can any of you that has gone from 2 -3 (which mommy feels is a huge step, once you are over 3 that it is easier - NO WE ARENT GOING OVER THREE) but having more than 2 just seems a HUGE jump) chime in. Please tell us good or bad, tips you learned, anything that can help us think this through or help us prepare.
W&C (maybe soon to be W&C and little S)
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Thats what keeps saying when she realizes what she is about to do. But she thinks 3 feels like a better number long term than three. It seems like that way someone will always have a companion at home if one is at the vet, or goes somewhere with mom. And also mom is worried Chessy doesnt get enough play cause I dont like to play. So he would have a kitty to wrestle with and play ball and things. Maybe he would leave me alone more and not try to pounce on me.
But she is worried too. But thinking back, she worried like this before adopting the two of us (she had always had just one)
PS. I dont care if we get a 3rd, I will NOT share my HL blanket with any cat!!!!
The more the merrier is our motto..within reason of course and always with the animal's best interest first and foremost.
3 seems to be a little more work then 2..which in our house we can do standing on our heads. But it is not that bad. 4,5,6,7...a lot of work.
You know our lives. I was the first to be the 3rd cat. I disrupted Cappy and Taag's life. Cappy didn't live long after I came (I had nothing to do with that!) and Taag adjusted. ( but yessss, it took Taag 7 months to decide that )
Sweets was next to be the 3rd cat and she was so used to running around her shelter with about 40-50 other cats that she had no problems with either myself, or Taag.
I thought that was the most easy *blending* I had ever seen
Until...Gabby - and you know ALL about her !!!
Our experience is that adding a 3rd cat wasn't much different from having 2. What matters most is considering the personalities of all involved. W&C are adults and little Seybah's 3 months? Her personality isn't *set* so much yet. (But Seybah's mom can tell you all about how Seybah is with dominant and pouncey-play kitties now, but how will Seybah be at 3?)
Oh, and someone is almost always "going to be upset" when a new cat comes. They manage though to work out an *agreement* between themselves.
I was one of 3 kitties who all got along well with each other. Then my brofur Paulie went to the Bridge & my sisfur Bessie and I got along fine. We weren't friendly, but we didn't bother each other and managed to share our purrents. Bessie & I were both Olde Furts already.
Then...Mommy got the bright idea to adopt two brofurs for us. Prince was 3 and Ringo was 2. It's a long story, but their first Mommy who loved them very much had to give some of her kitties away and my Mommy said she'd like to have them move in with us. Well! hummmmmffff! She should have asked me first!!!!
Bessie got along with our brofurs okay, but I took an immediate dislike to Prince. I still don't like him. He *looks* at me all the time & I freak out. Bessie (alpha cat) went to the Bridge last March and that's when Prince & I really started having trouble. The vet told Mommy we were trying to figure out who is the new boss around here. It's been over 6 mos. & we still don't get along. He's a lot bigger than I am.
Some things that have helped our situation:
1) More food bowls. Instead of just in the kitchen, there are now food bowls in the laundry room & Mommy's bedroom too.
2) squirt bottles
3) additional litter box
4) no more "nip" toys. (made them fight more)
5) My purrents have me sit on their laps when they are watching TV at night. The boys are nearby on the back of the couch. We co-exist okay that way.
6) I get to sleep w/my purrents in the bedroom w/the door shut now, instead of open. The boys get to roam the house.
I probably get more attention now than I ever did before, but things still aren't the way I'd like it to be. I used to spend lots of time w/Mommy at the catputer, but now Prince is always there. I liked to sleep in the cat bed and on the couches, but now I hide instead.
Maybe they are jealous cuz I get to go outside & they don't. Mommy thinks they just want to play with me but I don't want to play with them.
I think it just depends on the purrsonalities. I used to be one of 5 kitties and I got along with all of them, but two of them fought all the time.
Maybe a kitten will get along better with 2 older cats since they won't be quite so "set" in the ways.
I think it'll probaby be okay to bring a kitten into the house. Us "older" kitties are very set in our ways! Good luck!!!!!!!!!!
Mama kind of ended up going over her limit of four recently, no time for the thinking of it process... mol! The advice you've gotten is good, especially about extra food bowls and litter boxes. Make it a slow introduction. This is the first time mama's done that as she's brought home an injured baby. I finally got to sniff her face to face last night and fumped her only once on the head. Up until now I've been smelling, seeing and hearing her but no contact. If your mom gives you time to get used to another baby in the house, the transition should go smoother. Also, she needs to ensure the amount of attention you get doesn't change so that you feel the baby is being favoured.
Princessy purrs, Lilly
I think you should get 2 more kittens rather than one. It will be so much fun watching them play together and get up to 'kitten mischief' and they'll leave Winnie and Chester alone!
Other than Alfie's suggestion *giggle* thanks for all the great advice.....mommy cant even imagine having 4 kitties in our house!!!!!
We are realizing that if we are going to go to 3 now is the time to do it and not when we are a lot older...that seems to be a common thread in the emails and diary posts we are getting. The older we get the harder it will get.
Yup another litterbox definitely, maybe even another water fountain too.
Man there is a lot to think about to get a baby!!!! *W&C pulling up amazon.com to see what else they want to buy for seybah to visit*
After Zoe became an Angel, it was lonely me.
Then Jasper and Jillian arrived and now we're three!
Wow! Can't tell you what a stretch that was for Mom (before they got here).
But really it was the BEST cuz they like to play kinda wild with each other and I've outgrown that now.
Yeah get Chessy someone to play with!
As much as mommy hates to admit it, one of us dying is in her thoughts too on this. We are young and healthy, but we all see young healthy catsters all of a sudden become sick or pass away every day on here. And she worries that Chessy and I are TOO close and wouldnt handle it being alone. So by there being three there is a better chance (although no guarantee in life) that there wouldnt be a single kitty left behind and lonely. And to have to introduce a new kitty in that situation.
We are sure after this is over we will look back and laugh at how much mom stressed over this, but right now she is ripping herself apart deciding. We wish Seybah lived closer so she could just do it and stop thinking! This must be what 9 months of pregnancy is like for twofer babies!
A visit sounds a perfect idea. Although I would trust implicitly any advice Rascal and Pooh's Mom made in regards to Seybah. She was 100% right in her assessment of Gabby!
(As well as was Teal'c's Mom in her representation of Gabby's personality fit for our family to our Mama.)