March 26th 2012 12:09 pm
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Well, I don't get it. Mom woke up this morning doing what she always does. Playing with us, giving Midnight her meds, etc. We were doing great! It was a good day! Then she got on the forums to try and help others. So far today she's been attacked out of the blue TWICE. Some nut job just emailed mom to the site out of the blue and told her that mom doesn't have any idea what triaditis is, even though, HELLO! Alex died of it and mom's vet diagnosed her with it, we have 3 universities working with us on it, etc. etc. After working on the site for 3 years and all of these people seeing it, don't you think someone would have told mom by now if she was so stupid as to put the wrong terms on the site? Anyway, this person didn't even ask nice, she just attacked mom big time. Accused mom of being stupid and not researching anything before putting them up on the web.
PLUS! Someone on another forum (not this one), asked if they let their male non-neutered cat go without neutering, will he have health problems. So mom just explained that of course not all of them do but he has a higher chance of developing prostate cancer than a cat who's been fixed. Well, mom got hell for that too. This other person just came along and told mom she should stop scaring people and saying that all cats would die if they didn't get fixed or neutered. Where in the heck did they get that out of that sentence? Because that's exactly what mom wrote!
My mom is really trying hard to deal with a lot of depression and anxiety not to mention all the stuff going on here at home and out of the blue these crazy people attack her. I know, I know. Grow a thick skin and let it roll off. Sometimes you can't, you know? Mom is not in a good place right now but she is TRYING to climb out of it. Everyone wants mom to put IBD kitties on Facebook and this is the kind of thing she's afraid of. That people will come on and tear her a new one.
I don't get it, my mom isn't a saint but why is she a doormat too? Sorry to dump all of this here, I just need to talk, I'm really mad at these people for upsetting her. We were having such a good day. Sometimes mom doesn't want to do any of this anymore. Just crawl back into the sunset and disappear. Technology has made people more crazy and more mean. I've got some face kissing to do, got to kiss my mom for awhile.
Luv all you guys, thanks for listening
Lacey, there are crazies in this world. Your poor mom works so hard. I wish that those people would see this. I love her information and pass it along. Be careful of Facebook. There are people there who have nothing to do but harrass others.
I just go my kitty bracelet for kitty breast cancer. It is so pretty. I know that I will get teased but the cancer has be cured. Tell mom thanks for letting me know where to get one.
Meanwhile, give your mom some head bumps and purrrrrrrs....your friend, Natasha and of course, Alex
well ewe noe uz, we dont hold R tongues N we wooda stated bak:
**************** tanx mew sew much for lettin me noe eye dont noe what de hockey stik hill eye am talkin bout; eye will be sure ta let my vet ________________ and de universiteeez of: ___________ _____________ _____________ also noe; they dont noe what the hockey stik hill they be talkin bout either...
sew glad ta noe my kitteh alex didnna die frum this diseaze...even tho thats what her be daignosed with....guess tanx two yur knowledge now eye can sue my vet for miz diagnosis...knot that at this point in time it makes much diffrunce...
eye will also bee sure ta let de pet health library of ________________ noe, they doez knot noe what the hockey stik hill they bee talkin bout on de subject triaditis either as eye reference them regularly...
tanx for keepin me on my toez, my uninformed web site will be comin down...post haste as ALL de information on it, noe matter de source ...be bogus N full of it....
now insted of tryin ta save lives, eye can spend mor time ...oh....eye dunno....pickin my azz eye guess !!
********** this be what we wooda writed bak, but then thatz just us !!! *************
and as far as de unaltered male goes....
SPRAY AWAY DOOD...SPRAY...A WAY !!!!!!!!
Holy cow my mom and I are laughing so hard right now!!! Tabbies you are so funny and we thank god every day we know you and your mom. You are so kind, so loving and SO SO SO FUNNY!! Oh you have no idea what an important thing that is. I think if this lady writes back, we'll say those exact things. MOL (although mom blocked her).
WOW, the neighbors just pulled in (they have been home all day every day since Friday, grrr) and their radio in the truck is so loud and the base so deep, our house is shaking. He'll be deaf in no time!
Thanks Natasha. Mom has been really not wanting to go onto Facebook for years but so many people ask us about it and keep telling us it's the best way to spread the word about IBD. Someone is helping mom and told her that if she makes a fan page and sets it to "very private" she can control the comments on there. But yeah, mom is scared of that. Mom feels like such a wuss but mom also doesn't want to get so mad that she starts to lose her ability to open her heart to the ones that need us.
Check rubs to your mum. There's something about the internet were people think they can write anything, they forget there are people at the other end. It's a bit like the phone heroes where they will ring up and demand something, but if they were face to face with you, they one wouldn't have the guts to say them, plus they usually say it a little nicer.
There is another problem I've seen especially with e-mails. I sent one to our head office. I got a very nasty phone call saying why the tone, I was very confused, I did not use upper case, unless it was the start of a sentence. I also had the letters lol in there, indicating I was laughing. So I asked them why they thought I had been nasty. I asked them to reread the e-mail with the tone I was using and they laughed and said they didn't think I'd be like that, and they saw the e-mail in a different light. I think they were having a bad morning but it's amazing how we can though a twist when we read the e-mails as well. I not saying you did that yikes!!! I get myself in trouble again. I know it's easy to annoy people when we don't realise we are doing it. I'm not making any excuses for those people as there are many out there that are nasty and unfortunately with billions of people on the internet we are going to get them. Even the nicest people in the world will annoy someone. I'm not saying you did that either. Yikes again maybe I should stop writing or you won't talk to me again lol. I'll be in the bad books. I know I've also been upset with what I've been p-mail on Catster. I had to realise it is stupid, asI sure the person/ cat didn't mean anything mean by it, but it did make my eyes water and I got that lousy feeling you get. I'm usually a tough nut.
I’m sorry that you have received these e-mail . I know it is especially hard when you are trying to do good and help others. I find the harder you try on things, the harder you fall.
Maybe if you had an e-mail done up that said the information here is obtained from ........ and is here to help all info is good there are always different ways to see things like one minute chocolate is bad for you then some is good. Even red wine, eggs there will always be those that say things are good and those that say they are bad. Is it not better to be informed so you can make up your own mind up. This information here is to help kitties and we are trying to keep up to date with everything. If you question anything or have something constructive to add please let us know so we can give it to the professionals in the medical field and get their opinion so we can add it all here.
This is badly written but if you had a standard letter that you were able to change a few words around on (like their name) so you didn’t have to drag yourself down writing it. And fire it off quick as, so you can try to brush the person off, why I said try is because I know it isn’t easy.
Many purrs and whisker kisses for all the work you have done on your website. I’m sure it has help many many kitties around the world. Those kitties lives are worth much more than a couple of silly nasty people. Well that’s what I think but then we like you love kitties.
Lacey, your mom needs to hire Da Tabbies to be her agents/publicists/biographers/personal assistants/hair stylists/psychiatrists/chauffeurs(oh, yeah, cats don't drive)/food tasters/bodyguards/swim coaches/astrologers/checkbook balancers.
Long ago, when Iwas a young cat, I learned 'mind over matter'. If you don't mind them, they won't matter.
Tell your mom that there are 'flamers' everywhere. People...never cats....who like to get others riled up.
Some humans are very very ignorant, in the sense that they are angry, hostile people who want to throw their weight around in places that they don't have to look in a person's eye and deal with them.
Tell your mom to let it roll off her back like rain on a ducks back....
Got any chicken?
well I'd love to let it roll off my back but this woman is on a forum I'm on and she's publicly telling everyone I don't know what I'm talking about.
Better you, than if she told daddy that. she'd be told, what, where, when (after work, but b4 he showered), and how to kiss a certain part of his anatomy. She needs to jump in daddy's truck for a bit...the tank part, all full of POOP!!!! ( that should get you a ddp...POOP!!) Then, she'd smell like her mouth, and her rotten brain!!! Scuse me, i's needs to go WHOP somethings. Laser lite, Mouse, Kringle...any will do!!
MOL. love that Kringle!!! Lacey give your Mom a big paw hug and purr.....ps tell her that Wayfair has shipped my new Cat Tree today....I am so excited.....
It is easier said than done but ignore these idiots.....they probably had a bad day and your mom was unfortunately the the poor recipient of their anger....
Hugs & Kisses
*Artie stands on his back legs and places his one front paw on the shoulder of Lacey's mom while he gently licks the tears from her cheek*
We are so sorry that this happened to your Mommy.
Unfortunatly, when you put yourself out there, you do open
yourself up to such mean people.
We know she works very hard in researching and the time she puts into her site. She doesn't have to do it. But she does it because of her love of others.
We are giving her a big hug right now.
We all agree with everyone else! just remember all of the kitties and their humans you have helped....including me & Mom with getting our fundraiser going for Kitty Breast Cancer.
For all the many you have helped she is one person...please don't let it get to you, just remember your Alex and why you started your web page and how much you have helped others...
This is one reason Mom doesn't put me and kitty breast cancer on FB or any where else because of all the nasty no good people out there...
Mom says turn it back onto her!!!! but then Mom says do unto others as you would have them do unto you!!!!Your Mom is a good, kind and beautiful person and she is doing good, she will be rewarded one day for all the good she has done. We think your Mom gives us so much information about so many animals things, she even passes some of them on to her clients. So you see your Mom is doing good.
Hang in there and please be OK...all of us kitty angels are watching over you Mom..
Sending your Mom a beautiful butterfly
MOL Blizz! You are STILL the Catfather in every sense of the word and I'm a lucky kitty to have you on our side. MOL. I know Biggles, it's true. Mom knows that too. Mom stayed a recluse for a long time so these kinds of things couldn't affect her and because she decided to do Alex's website, that's why she started putting herself out there more. We have wayyyy too many great friends and so much fun times with you all here so we don't regret that. Mom is just mad because she WAS helping others on that site and now who knows if they'll even listen to her anymore. I don't think we'll go back for awhile. sigh. Mom hates the idea of someone thinking she wrote inaccurate info.
Artie! You are so sweet and my mom says thank you to pieces for licking her tears, it really helps. Harley we can't wait to see pictures of you on that new cat tree. We're excited for you, it's pawsome!
QT our sweet, beautiful, angel friend. We love you and your mom and we're so glad so many people are helping your cause. It's so important! Hi Ruffy!!! Do me a favor and go and bite the bad lady. she probably tastes like chicken!
Monster that's a lot of jobs for the Tabbies to have. I agree I should hire them though, they are furtastic. But I can taste my own food! MOL
Mr. D!!! WOWSA! MOL. You are so sweet, all of you. I think we'll just stick with Catster again for awhile. The other places are not so nice.
Here's my TWO PAWS worth...
My mumma would never ever have allowed your mom to put me on her website if she thought your mom didn't know what she was writing about.
Your mom has researched and studied IBD and associated problems meticulously,and in fact, your mom knows more about this disease than most vets do!
Alex and I are a munching on Toona cakes right now, but if that nasty lady ( and we use this term loosely) doesn't stop, we're gonna sprinkle some used kitty litter on her...MOL
Angel head bonks~
Oh no, tell her to try to ignore those negative jerks. My mom understands how hard it is to ignore things like that, but it's the only thing to do. Some people have nothing better to do with their time than say nasty things. They are trying to make themselves feel superior by taking apart other people. Believe me, my mom knows from firsthand experience how upsetting people like that can be. Just know that those evil hyenas do not represent us. They should try doing their own research and then they'd see that you have your information right.
OMC! Meowmy just came home from a busy evening at her job...and now after we convinced her to come to Catster fur a while...well you know!
Dear me she said, Poor Lacey and her furmily! Why this good bunch of all things?
Maybe Pipo could give her a smacky paw...he is so fast with them she wouldn't know what hit her, MOL!
Meowmy would also be leery of FB.
Did this woman recently loose her cat to one of the diseases you write about? If so then her grieving is being turned into anger as her coping mechanism...so sad...and sadder yet that you had to watch your Mom bear it.
Misdirected grieving can be so destructive, and recently we also stated something about meowmy beiung unbder stress at her job, sher nearly lost it, due to some woman who was doing just that, manipulating things to make someone else take blame for their issues...thankfully that has been solved, so now we can pawyer that your furmily too will once again be on an even keel and 'normal'...wahtevfur that is, MOL!
We send you many hugs of support and comfort! (((((♥))))
Purrs, Pawyers and headbonks,
Pipo & Minko & Meowmy Ingrid
Aww Lacey please give your Mom a big fuzzy hug from all of us. I agree with what everybody is saying. It could be anger/grief. She could just be a rotten trouble maker, Mom works with a lady like that too! Plus computers can turn small minds into big bullies!
You know in your heart, and in your head, that your information is valid. Heck, you are more knowledgeable about this that our vet is! Just look here, at how many furs you have helped. I know those attacks hurt, they hurt all the more because you are correct and you are so very passionate about it.
You know we love your family and we are sad to see your Mom struggling. I'm glad you wrote about her so that we can all share our love and support. Tell your Mom she is on the right track to climb out of this. Just take it a day at a time, or an hour, or even a step at a time. Please know that we are here for you.
Tell that person if they have a bad day to, go and vent in the closet like us kitties. If she is afraid of closed spaces then go, to the grocery store and buy a big bag of cheese puffs and go share them with the squirrels. Tell them, your problems.
If you have an opinion learn to be diplomatic. If you don't agree with the way someone is doing things then, keep your opinion to yourself or go elsewhere.
We are all here on Catster for the same reason. For the fun, not the ridicule.
So grow up and for cry'in out loud.
Put a smile on that sour face and walk down the street and see how many smiles you get back. Another words enjoy life and keep the negative comments to yourself. (No LOL Needed here).
As for Mr. D, don't even dwell on the way someone read your mail. You have a very big heart. You and your furrs and humans are the sweetest people on your continent.
Well among the top of the sweetest since we are taking about a whole continent.
Smiles remember Smiles. Negative behavior not welcomed here.
Do we need to bring in some So Side Chicago style? You have helped way too many people, us included. Some people are not happy unless they are making someone else miserable. I look at it this way, when I come here & ask for help, I realize that not everyone will see the same things. You take all the info & learn. There is no reason to attack anyone for their opinions (and in your case it is FACTS) If they do not like it, then they should not come here...nuff said. And I think you should totally post Tabbies return, I was laughing so hard - the cats thought I was nuts ( even moreso than usual!) You are awesome & know so much. Some people are just plain STUPID. purrs, your pals Renee Tigger, Maizy & Smitty
Gosh I can't tell you all how pawsome you are. If I could invent a word even better than pawsome I would! Come to think of it, I'm gonna try! MOL. Purrcy you are so funny and I'm glad you and Alex are the bestest of furriends in heaven that could be. She has always loved you and we've always had a warm spot for you in our hearts. Tell your mom to be patient and that you're still looking for the right kitty to fill her giant heart. That's a tall order as she has a lot of love to give.
Tigger you are too funny. Annie, I am snapping my fingers in a Z pattern thinking "you tell 'em girl! I like your style"! Skylar I have my paw on my heart and I'm thinking how much we love your family too. You all are so sweet you heal my mom's heart owwy!
WeeBees that lady lost her kitty to those diseases 10 years ago she said. We understand that hurt never goes away but jeez! Get a grip! She wrote an email to mom again last night asking to have a polite conversation and trying to be nice. Maybe mom will in a couple of days but she did blab now on that forum and tell everyone mom was wrong so we are not sure what we'd say that hasn't already been said. And how nice can mom be after that?
Evil hyenas! Love it Toki. We're glad this is all in our diary because when mom gets another email from another kook (and she will, it's inevitable), we can come back to this and read all these wonderful posts and help put it all in perspective.
Meantime, mom is on a mission to be vindicated and so far she's getting some emails backing her up. Not to satisfy that dope lady but for mom to be able to say "HERE! SEE?! SO SHUT UP!" MOL. Mom researches things until her fingers bleed and she has a migraine sometimes so that whole accusation just peed her off bad. Ingen's mommy called us last night to make sure mommy was okay. She's so sweet and cares so much about us. She was glad to hear that mommy got good and MAD and is bent on getting vindication for HERSELF. That made her feel better and was relieved.
Thanks Ingen, Novi and Lil' Bear's momma! We love you! and we love all of you.
You are right to take a breather before you respond to this person. But it sounds like a long breather may be good for the both of you. Please don't make anger come into play anymore. Wait a few weeks both of you, PLEEESE!!!!
Annie sweetheart, I think you have it a little wrong. the person that did this to my mom isn't on Catster, she's on a completely different forum and she's a complete stranger. Mom didn't even know she was on that forum until she started to bad mouth publicly on there about our website. Don't worry anyway, mom never responded to her and doesn't care to. Mom wants peace and to just get on with helping kitties and that person is a waste of mom's very little energy. so it'll be okay.
Oh I'm glad that this was a non Catster purrrson. But my message still applies. I have received messages from a few Furs in just the last few months that, have had Catster's do this very thing. I don't get in the middle. I'm a sidelines type of gal. You know that old saying="Let sleeping Fleas lay".
So now, I will.
Lacey, your Mom is the bestests.
Our Mom just said good bye forever from Facebook. We don't trust it. We don't need big brother watching our every move.
People that don't spay or neuter their pets are just the worst (unless you're a breeder). People, have you been to your local shelter lately? Come on. There is no excuse to not spay or neuter.
Lacey, give your Mom some hugs. Tell her she knows what she knows. And that's a lot.
I think you're all right about Facebook. I have resisted all this time to not put my website there and I still don't like that idea at all. Don't trust Google all that much either but we might do the Google circle thingy, not sure yet. sheesh.
Oh that person that gave mom the bull about the spaying and neutering thing...now that person has asked mom for more information about breast cancer or prostate cancer. Someone there must have said something to them and mom wrote a really, good, informative post! Used the information that UC Davis gave us and said if they want statistics to write to UC Davis. Jeez mom can't do every single darned thing for crying out loud! learn how to research bing bong! MOL.
And we agree, there is NO excuse not to spay or neuter unless you're a good breeder.
Yup, good breeders. That's fur sure. Unfortunately Iowa is infamous for having lots of puppy mills. Shameful, it breaks Mom's heart that people can be so cruel to animals.
Your Mom just needs to keep doing what she's doing. Put good info out there, tell everyone who has doubts: hey, I have spent years researching this. If you don't believe me, look into it yourself... And soon they will know she's the real deal.
Sorry that we not be here before now! Had a busy nite! The Internet is really great at helping peeplz like all of us get to meet and become fuuurends, but therez also lots of not so nice peepls out there. An' when dey say ugly things it hurts! Yeah, consider da source and don' let negative peeplz take away from all the positive luvin' things yer mom is doin'. Yews all is helpin' lots of kitties and dere families. Wez is better cause yews has been there for us. Wez luvs you all! (Little kissie, Lacey!)
Sending lots of hugs and purrs to your Mom. She has done so many wonderful things for kitties.
kissies right back Linus! I hope Lucy is okay. Please give a whisker kiss to your mom for me.
Thank you sweet Rose.
We wubbs you guyz soooo much. Sorry to hear she has such awful people to deal wif today!! Chin up, Mama...you're da best!!!!
I don't get people. I've read things online that I didn't agree with but never in my wildest dreams would I even consider personally attacking the person who wrote it, belittling, insulting and calling names. That's the problem I have with the internet - people just write whatever they want to without READING it first. My rule of thumb, before I post or send anything to someone, is to ask myself if would I say it to their face. Cowards hide behind the anonimity of their email addresses and screen names to say some of the most awful things to each other. Makes me sad...
I'm going to say to not let it bother you, but I know sometimes that's easier said than done. Just know that you're doing a service to the kitty community at large and there are going to be those that don't always agree. As for the ones who attack you for what you've said and done, poop on them! We know what a big heart you have and that you're trying to use Alex's story to inform others so that they might possibly avoid being in the same situation. We love you and hope you don't let the nay-sayers get to you. Don't you change a thing. We like you just the way you are!
Sally Maria's mama
Thank you BunnyBell, we love you too sweetie!
Sally Maria, you are such a sweet, loving girl. You and your momma are just the most pawsomest friends. You know my mom, when something is said that is to do with me, it cuts deep. She is going to send out some info about all of this in her next newsletter. People can really stink huh? And yet, whenever we get hurt by someone and we come here, we are healed magically by the love and shear devotion we all have to each other on Catster. Even when we aren't around that much and a lot of us don't see each other for awhile. You're all always there. We're a lucky, lucky family to have all of you! Love you you too Sally Maria our beautiful angel.
Awww.... hugs for you, now Lacey and Finney your mum needs some butterfly kisses Pronto!!!
Your mum has to remember she is right, and she can tell those others just to calm down, and take a pill, mol!! ;)
MOL Shadow, she told her more than that!!! MOL MOL