You love your cat, but it may seem like she doesn’t love you. Sure, she likes it when you pet her -ÔÇô but only for so long, and only in certain places. If you don’t follow her rules to the letter (and it may seem like those rules are random and arbitrary) you’ll be rewarded with a fist full of claws and teeth. Aggression in cats is scary, but the good news is that this particular type of aggression, which is called petting-induced aggression, is manageable. Here are seven tips to handle a cat with petting aggression issues.
Your cat may be acting aggressive because she’s in pain. Sore hips, an injured limb, or a toothache can cause your cat to lash out in order to protect the painful area. The best way to rule this out is to take her to the veterinarian for a full examination.
Some cats are happy to be petted around the head and shoulders, but can get overstimulated when pet on their backs or near their tails. When a cat gets overstimulated — even if the stimulus started out feeling good — she’ll lash out to make it stop.
Some people think their cat is attacking them "out of the blue," but if they understood a cat’s body language, they’d have seen it coming. If your cat starts twitching her tail, she may be getting overstimulated. Other signs that your cat wants you to back off include her moving away from your touch and glancing at your hand. If your cat was purring and she stops, that’s another sign that it’s time to let her go, and if your cat starts lashing her tail back and forth, stop petting right away, because an attack is imminent.
Even though your cat already knows you, you should let her approach you. Hold out your hand with one finger extended and let her have a sniff. When she rubs her head against your finger, she’s letting you know that you may start petting.
Cats are not dogs, and they don’t enjoy wrestling with people. They don’t want to have their fur ruffled up or be batted (even gently) with your hands. If you want to have fun with your cat, use an interactive toy like a feather wand instead.
If your cat does latch on to you with teeth and/or claws, don’t try to pull your hand away. That’ll only make her grab on harder. If you push your hand toward her body, she’ll loosen her grasp and let you go. Same thing with the teeth: If she bites you, push your hand toward the back of her mouth and she’ll open up.
It should go without saying that you should never hit, slap, throw, or kick a cat. Yelling at your cat will also make the situation worse, because it’ll frighten her. Of course, you’re free to quietly and calmly curse to your heart’s content.