So a Stray Cat Has Adopted You — Now What?
Sometimes a cat shows up in your neighborhood or on your doorstep, and it’s obvious that the cat is feral. There’s no way you’re going to lure the cat inside or touch her, and the best you can do is feed her, and hopefully, implement some TNR. The large gray area with free-roaming cats, however, are stray cats. A stray cat may seem feral at first. But given time, you might get close to them and even tempt them inside. With time, they might make a wonderful house cat, companion, or pet for you or another good home.
So, if it seems that a stray cat might be adopting you, what are the next best steps to take? Here’s the story of my Karma, and what she showed me about how to open your arms, and home, to a stray cat.
1. Go slowly, and be open to any curves in the road
Are the cats in question feral or stray cats? Photography ©Dovapi | Getty Images.
Start by determining whether the cat is feral. I know this is easier said than done.
Here’s how it played out with Karma. I began feeding her outside. Initially, she would not come close to the house at all, so I set the food on the other side of the yard, as far from the house as possible. I fed her at regular times so that she got used to the routine. Then I started to move the food closer to the house.
Karma showed no reluctance to come closer, even though she would run away if I came outside while she was eating. I got to the point where the food was right inside the garage and she was still coming in and eating. But I did this over a period of several weeks and I didn’t rush it.
2. How to get a stray cat inside
One day, I had a hunch that I might get her in the door. I shut all the other cats inside the house, and left the front door opened to a small enclosed breezeway we have. She came in. Somehow, I was able to close the door behind her.
Did she freak? Yes, a little. But fortunately she was so hungry that she got her head temporarily stuck in a Dixie cup full of food that I had grabbed quickly. That enabled me to quickly get the other cats in the bedroom and shut that door. Then, I opened the house door. She dashed in, but again, I had a feeling she was a gentle cat — just scared.
Initially she hid in a tiny utility room close near the front door. I gave her some time. I was easily able to reach in and scratch her chin. She began purring. I knew she was definitely not feral … but she could have come close to that line.
Every journey with taming a stray cat will be a little different. You sometimes need to rely on your observations and your gut feeling. Does the cat seem friendly? Scared or truly wild? To me, Karma seemed scared, but not yet truly wild. She was close to feral, though, and I don’t think she would have survived long, had she turned feral or not been integrated into our household.
3. Once inside, isolate the stray cat until you can take necessary health care steps
If you succeed in getting your stray cat inside, don’t let her have any contact with your other cats (if any) until you’ve had her vaccinated, checked and tested for contagious diseases like feline leukemia. Wash your own hands if going between these cats in a multi-cat household.
4. If other cats share your home, introduce them to the stray cat slowly
Introduce a stray cat to your other cats, slowly. Photography ©Wanderer Lindsay | Getty Images.
Let the cats get to know your stray cat from either side of, or under a door. Eventually, I might put the new cat in a carrier, and let the other cats take their time checking her out. I might even put other cats in carriers, and let the new cat check the house out. I might introduce her to one cat at a time, if there are several in the household.
I use my intuition a lot, and this is no exception. If it feels as if it’s going really well, it may be a fast (and successful) introduction. If someone seems really bent out of shape, I’ll take my time and make sure that all the cats get some extra love during this time of transition.
5. Be ready for surprises with your new, formerly stray cat
We can never know the baggage that a rescued stray cat may carry, but it may manifest once we get to know these newcomers better. Be ready for surprises.
My cats are indoor cats, but several months after Karma’s successful integration to the household, she managed to escape outside. We almost did not get her back. Once outside, it was as if her personality changed. She became “distant,” seemed almost wild, and would not respond to us.
When we were able to get her, thank goodness (we remained very calm and moved very slowly, so as not to set off more of her skittishness), we took her inside. Once inside, my husband held her up to the window (thinking that he was showing her that all was okay) and she shrank from the outside. Of course, she loves to look out windows now, but it was a strange experience. Be ready for these.
Kieran, another stray who adopted me, would not look out the windows for many months, and didn’t know how to play. It was as if he needed to learn to be a carefree cat. So be ready, and patient, when some of these surprises surface.
Rescue is a big calling. Whether you’re able to integrate a stray cat, or find him a home, or help a feral cat get through another winter — this is all good Karma. (Pun intended.)
What experience have you had with stray cats that have adopted you? What have you learned, and what have you done to make the process smooth? Share your stories in comments!
Thumbnail: Photography by beeboys / Shutterstock.
This article was originally published in 2015.
About the author
About Catherine Holm: Told that she is funny but doesn’t know it, accused of being an unintentional con artist by her husband, quiet, with frequent unannounced bursts into dancing liveliness, Cat Holm loves writing about, working for, and living with cats. She is the author of the cat-themed memoir Driving with Cats: Ours for a Short Time, the creator of Ann Catanzaro cat fantasy story gift books, and the author of a short story collection about people and place. She loves to dance, be outside whenever possible, read, play with cats, make music, do and teach yoga, and write. Cat lives in the woods, which she loves as much as really dark chocolate, and gets regular inspiration shots along with her double espresso shots from the city.
26 comments on “So a Stray Cat Has Adopted You — Now What?”
My Aunt has a cat name Stretch and he was a stray.
In 2011, after my Pappy died, Auntie said that Stretch started to come around. She would go outside and feed him and would sit on her glider and watch him eat. She also told me that it took months until he began to trust her.
One day my Grandma told Auntie to bring the “dog” (Grandma thought the cat was a dog) inside. My Aunt was reluctant because she didn’t know if he would spray in the house. But she did let him in and and he has been her cat ever since.
She cleaned all his battle wounds from the other cats and gave him a name (she named him Stretch because every time he would get up, he would Stretch).
Eight years later, he is still her cat and they live happily ever after in her house and watch Soap Operas and scary shows together. He is spoiled and loves his new family!!!
Now he is engaged to my cat (her name is Baby) and they are getting married in January on New Years Day (We are just pretending that they are getting married. We are making “pretend” decorations and guest lists.) This is all for fun and we love him very much!!! He is the best cat that has ever walked into my Aunt’s life and she doesn’t regret adopting him from the Streets of Parkland, WA!!! :)
I’ve always been wary of cats since being a child. Both myself and my daughter are allergic to cat hair so when we saw this black and white cat popping up in our back garden and in our neighbours back garden, we naturally didn’t welcome her in with open arms.
on easter Monday (with the next door neighbours away) we noticed her sat on our decking so my girlfriend decided to feed her a tin of tuna. she didn’t have a collar. she enjoyed the tuna and immediately seemed quite relaxed in our presence. she hung around on the decking for a bit, enjoyed the sunshine, had a sunbath and then went back over the fence to do what she does.
5 weeks later and Fish (we christened her Fish because of her love for tuna) is 85% a part of our house hold. when I wake up at 4.45 am I see her asleep in our back garden sat next to the light under the bench. we feed her some cat food at 6.30ish and let her have a lie on the couch for a bit before we let her out and go to work (and school). when we get home, we see her sat next to the porch window looking in waiting for us. we feed her some more food and she then makes herself at home for the evening, lying on the window sill, the couch, the rug, even our Sky box! we’ve bought her some toys that she enjoys playing with and then at 9.30pm when its time for us to go upstairs, I take her to the backgarden, feed her some snacks and shut the door! it feels horrible leaving her outside for the night, however with our allegies and our house being heavily alarmed we can’t really take the step just yet!
all our kids love her, my girlfriend loves seeing her and to be fair I love it when I see her on the back. she’s so friendly and chilled out (I think she might be quite old). Fish is awesome!
We’ve recently been adopted, I think. There’s a cat that’s been on and off our property for at least a few days. Comes right to me when I call him, follows me around. I’ve pet him and he lets me pick him up for a short time. He has no collar though, is always in the same area when I find him, and has a tick on his neck that any owner would find right away. If he were declawed I would try to take the tick out but he’s not and I’m afraid of scaring him off. I’m going to buy cat food for him tomorrow and since he likes my garage I’m putting a box and old blanket in there. How long before I should bring him inside, if at all? He’s gotten into my enclosed porch and wasn’t afraid, just curious. But I do have a small dog. Introduce the same way as cats with one in a carrier?
Hi there,
We suggest getting this cat to the vet first thing! The vet should be able to lend more insight into any medical issues he might have, remove the tick, etc. A vet can also check to see if the cat is microchipped and if he does have an owner.
This piece might help with the introduction!
https://www.dogster.com/lifestyle/introducing-your-new-dog-to-cats
When I was living in Escondido CA, within a month I discovered that my apartment came with an added “perk”, that I came to call “Rent-A-Cat”. One day as I worked on my computer by the open front door, and orange tabby had slipped into my apartment while I wasn’t looking.
He didn’t seem to be up to any mischief, so I decided to let him roam a while. He casually checked out my entire apartment, and then came & sat down beside my feet. When I had to leave for a while, I encouraged him to go back out. When I got back, there he was again, in front of my door. Once more he made himself at home, like he’d lived there the whole time.
I’m a cat person anyway, so I let him hang out as he wished, feeding him like my own pet. I usually left my door open when I was there, so the cat used my place as his “home base”, for about a month. Then he just wasn’t there anymore. Within a week though, here came another cat, same routine.
There turned out to be five cats in the complex who had their kind of “time share” system; cycling through various apartments in month-long increments regardless of the changing occupants, wherever they felt welcome. I don’t even know if any of them even came from any specific apartments; maybe they’d been constantly doing this for some time before I got there.
It certainly was the only time I’ve found such an arrangement, but I thought it was a cool extra benefit of living there!
This article helped me so much. We were adopted last month and its been nothing short of an amazing time with our new little kitty. ???? My question is, there’s a lot of feral and strays around our home. I’m already working with the shelter to get them fixed. How do you not give in and give all of them homes? My husband is scared one day he will come home from work and we will have all of the cats in the neighborhood.
A lovely wee stray adopted us recently at our Spanish home. She comes into the house for food and is very tactile. However, we are going back to the UK for a couple of weeks. What do we do. I don’t want her to feel abandoned but can’t take her.
Hi Helen,
We suggest contacting local humane societies / no-kill shelters for the best advice. Thank you for caring for this kitty!
Help. I have a kitten outside i feed her alot shes maybe a yr old. I know she already had a liter of kittens. Some one took the kittens to shelter but left the mom back outside. now instead of 1 cat there are now 4 others Large cats have showed up and all trapping her and well ya know. I dont know where the new cats came from they just showed up one day. Im so afraid if i take the kitten in she will spray in the house until i can take her to a clinic to be fixed and find her a home. I do have a cat,
I was going to put new cat in basement huge i may add, but afraid she will spray in the house. HELP. or do i just leave he outside till i can take her to clinic. Its still a week away. Ugh.
Hi Kim,
We suggest calling the clinic and explaining this specific situation for the best answer. Here’s some info on TNR and feral cats that might help as well:
https://www.catster.com/lifestyle/getting-involved-in-tnr
https://www.catster.com/lifestyle/8-steps-trap-neuter-return-tnr-feral-cats
https://www.catster.com/kittens/you-found-a-stray-kitten-heres-what-to-do
https://www.catster.com/lifestyle/follow-these-tips-to-help-stray-and-feral-cats-survive-the-cold
There’s a kitten that comes to my porch all the time and my daughter feeds it. It doesn’t seem scared and follows us when I’m going to work or she’s going to school. It even has tried to come in the house when my daughter comes from school. We don’t have any pets in the house so what is my next step? Do I allow the cat in or try to call the local animal shelter first?
Yes! Let the cat in if you are ready for the commitment. Congratulations, you’ve been adopted !
I have that same problem she came in she followed me from the across the street parking, she wasn’t shy at all 1 can of tuna was all it took. When I was taking the trash out she wandered in. So I took her up to my are (I have an entire floor to myself) but she ran in the closet and started crying. So when I went back to continue taking out trash she ran out. Should I leave her outside or try to goat her into coming back in? Markus
markus I would recommend trying to get her inside and also try to take her to the vet
Happy New Year & thanks for being here !!
In early December I was adopted by a stray cat. It was the Saturday of ” Snowstorm Diego” & it was just starting to snow. I was checking my mail box & a wet, muddy, long-haired white cat was under foot, yelling to be taken out of the snow, so I did.
She was hungry and scared, but it was obvious that she’d around people before. I’ve taken her to the local shelter for an exam & shots & worming. They think that she’s about 7 & has leukemia. Since the deworming she’s a new cat, of course. You can’t feel ribs anymore and she even acts like she wants to play some… until… she wants to scratch & bite the heck out of me ! She is very affectionate one minute & hostile the next. I let her have her space and don’t really push her, I hope.
Finally, can you tell me how to deal with a cat like her ?
BTW.. her name is Diego ) Thanks !!
Hi there,
Thanks for taking this kitty in! Here are some articles that might help —
https://www.catster.com/lifestyle/cat-behavior-problems-tips-cats-aggressive-aggression
https://www.catster.com/cat-behavior/cat-aggression
https://www.catster.com/cat-behavior/cat-love-bites-what-do-they-mean
I recently had to move home after 6 years, during this time there I have seen so many stray cats in my back garden, 4 kittens who I was able to bring home and hand rear,- their mothers sadly were virtually kittens themselves who didn’t manage to feed them – luckily I was able to keep the 4 alive and are all doing very well today, despite the house move. In the meantime, 2 strays I was able to get close to eventually and for whom I built an outside shelter for also moved with me, which was a challenge as neither had ever been in a carrier or out of their domain, but delighted I took them too. I have read up on how to keep them safe, which has meant they have been in my large conservatory, with their own familiar cat houses, blankets etc for 10 days, but I want to get them to be able to wander around the new large garden. If anyone knows the best method to do this, ensuring they won’t be freaked out or try to bolt over the gate, fence etc, I would love to hear how. I did open the doors the other day for over an hour during daylight, but neither of them ventured outside. I have tried to get a collar on them, but this is not an option as they were so distressed. I want them to be safe and secure, especially as my new garden is now next to a quiet road, but cars nonetheless nearby. Thanks
Hi there,
Thank you for caring about these cats! We suggest you contact a local humane or rescue society for advice best tailored to your situation.
My cat Snuggles was formerly s stray cat in another neighborhood that I did business in s few times a week. I started to notice this swrrt ginger boy ewho apparently was being fed”people food” do I started feeding him cat food and leaving cans of food with the building janitor to feed to him on the days I wasn’t there. My friend named him Snuggles and he would react to my calling his name when I arrived. After a couple of weeks he was letting me gently pet him. I started to fall in love with him. After seeing him get attacked by two cats and seeing how scared he was and having seen him sick and curled up in a ball the decision to take him home was made. I needed him to have real toys to play with and not plastic bags Many people sacid he would have died if I didn’t take him. So I showed up with a carrier and he softly gave a few cry’s. The next day I already had arranged to have him neutered and vaccinated. This was over 4 years ago and I have never regretted for a minute becoming Snuggles “hooman.” He looks out the window but always avoids the front door. My shy and gentle boy now lowly purrs on a regular basis. ????
Our elderly princess, Chert, was a former stray. We don’t know how long she was on the streets, but she had been spayed before and was quick to take over my apartment when I started feeding her inside it. We just listened to what we wanted, gave her space, cheek ribbons and food. It was a very smooth transition as she clearly wanted to be a house cat once more. The first few months after we got her, she was distant and elusive when she would get out or be let out, but over time became more comfortable and would come beg for pets when I was out gardening.
haha, my cat was a feral cat…he lived for 2 years on the streets and i took him home. for a couple of weeks we locked him at home with us, then we opened our garden and let him out…he can go for days at a time and he always comes back home, it just takes time
I was lucky to meet a stray neighborhood cat we nicknamed Polly since she is a polydactyl gooden long hair tabby. She has been visiting for about 12 years, and we estimate she was about 1 or 2 when she first came around. We put out dry food for her when she stopped by, and she loved to sit with us and be petted. She was only afraid of adult men, and would run if they came near. We tried to keep her overnight in the garage one cold night, because she went in and wouldn’t leave (just kept peeking under the door). Overnight she tore the curtains off the back door, chewed on the garage door rubber in an effort to escape. I had my late cat’s litter box, cat tree, new water and food out there but she just wanted out of there.
She still comes to visit but scoots out of the garage if I try to close the door. She never liked to be picked up, but would climb into a seated lap. Last summer it looked like someone gave her a puppy cut haircut to get the mats off. The summers before I would try to brush them ou or pick out the burrs, sometimes she lost big patches of hair which I think got pulled out. She’s always thin and won’t eat dry food here but her teeth look like they have been cleaned at some point.
Now we have a new cat visiting (all black shorthair) we feed and it keeps its distance but is coming closer and started “talking” to us. Not sure if it is male or female. Can’t get close enough to see in the dark.
No, what she did was save a life. This is why there are thousands upon thousands of strays. People get tired of taking care of their cat and throw it outside to fend for itself thinking it’s ok for a cat to live on it’s own outside. They are starving,freezing, getting hit by cars, being abused by sickos and many other horrid things. Thank you for taking the time to save a cats life
Sounds more like you took a cat prisoner and wouldn’t let her go once she escaped :/