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Do I Love My Cat Too Much? Bonding Advice & FAQ

Written by: Lorre Luther

Last Updated on April 9, 2024 by Catster Editorial Team


Do I Love My Cat Too Much? Bonding Advice & FAQ

If you regularly spend days searching for just the right gift to celebrate your cat’s homecoming, every picture on your phone features your buddy, and you don’t like going on vacations that require you to leave your companion behind, the question, “Do I love my cat too much” may have crossed your mind once or twice.

While some may suggest the importance of “perspective” and “moderation,” the cat lovers of the universe know the beauty of going all out when it comes to celebrating, honoring, and hanging out with their companions.

While there may be things to worry about in life, loving your cat too much isn’t one of them, as it’s simply impossible.

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What About Cat Codependency?

According to one study, cat parents display various levels of affection toward their pets. Some have casual and distant relationships with their cats and don’t see them as part of their families. Others enjoy spending time with their cats and even chatting with them. Cats in these friendly relationships are often easy-going and not inclined to become attached.

Codependent relationships go both ways and involve strong bonds keenly felt by both humans and cats. Cats and their humans frequently get along well when both parties have similar expectations regarding contact and interaction.

While it may be possible to have a codependent cat, it’s not likely to be an issue as long as everyone is happy, love flows evenly in both directions, and affection is shown in ways that all parties appreciate.

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What About Separation Anxiety?

Separation anxiety sometimes shows up when cats, particularly attached to their humans, have to spend time alone. The signs can include peeing and pooping outside of the litter box, excessive meowing, and excessive grooming. Cats suffering from the condition often become destructive or tend to want lots of attention.

While it’s not entirely clear why some cats develop the condition, and others don’t, a few factors appear to increase the likelihood of separation anxiety. Female cats are generally more likely to show signs than males. Strictly indoor pets and those who live alone are also at higher risk. Cats who otherwise do just fine spending reasonable amounts of time alone sometimes begin showing signs of separation anxiety when their companions’ schedules change.

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How Can I Keep My Cat Happy When I’m Not Around?

Giving cats lots of activities to keep them occupied can go a long way toward ensuring they stay happy when left alone.

Music for Cats and Toys

Music provides pets with something relaxing to listen to that can help time fly by. Stock up on plenty of interactive toys so your buddy can enjoy self-motivated solo play when you’re not around.

Toys that squeak and flop around when cats bat at them can encourage them to spend more time playing, and physical activity is great for their mental and physical well-being.

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Scratching Posts and Perches

Scratching posts and places to hang out above it all are huge when it comes to creating cat-friendly environments. Puzzle feeders filled with treats can keep cats busy going after goodies while you’re taking care of things away from home. If you’re looking for extra credit in the enrichment department, put a cat tree (or something similar) in front of a window so your companion can enjoy watching what’s going on outside.

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While you may occasionally wonder if you love your cat too much, rest assured that this is one situation you just don’t have to worry about. While it may be possible for people to have codependent relationships with their cats, it’s usually not an issue when both parties are okay with the level of attachment and the interactions that occur.

You don’t have to change anything as long as you and your cat are happy and healthy. You can continue showing your cat how much you care with the snuggles, the pictures, the cuddles, the treats, and the play sessions.

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