How do I stop my 1 y/o neutered male from attacking my 12 y/o spayed female?
I have had my 12 y/o spayed female since kittenhood. She is a calico and she is declawed. I also have a 3 y/o male neutered cat who, a year ago, kept trying to play with her and she wanted to be left alone. I got him a playmate, a brother who is now 1 y/o, neutered. The 3 y/o basically leaves my female alone now but the 1 y/o attacks/tries to play with the female too often for my liking. I defer to my female and do not want her to be scared (as the runt of her litter she is still quite small). Separating them is next to impossible (only 2 rooms) unless it's inside/outside. I do not want to give up on the boy ... but I'm near the end of my good-naturedness.
on May 1st 2012
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Your 1 year old boy is acting like a bratty little kid tormenting his big sister. You say he tries to play with her "too often for (your) liking", but what does the female say about it? Older cats, especially females, tend to set the ground rules for unruly kits. If she growls or swats at him, don't intervene. He's learning. Letting him outside is quite possibly putting him in danger. Since you have 2 rooms, when you feel he is being too aggressive with the female (and she does as well), put the male in the other room for a "time out to calm down" for a few minutes. Chances are, as he grows and matures, he too will leave her alone. Unless he is truly torturing her, give her some leeway to correct the little one on her own. Don't shriek, yell or strike the kitten. Protect your female, but let her do the best she can at handling the situation. By interfering, you may be making her all the more appealing to the baby.
Izadore (Izzie) answered on 5/3/12. Helpful? / 0