Are my cats playing or fighting?

So, we have two cats. One we got last November and one we got a month later. The one we got in November his name is Lenny. He is 3 years old. The one we got in December is 5 and her name is Skittles. They both love humans and have been pretty peaceful with each other until recently. So as time has gone by, Lenny has become more and more playful. He wants to play with her but she doesn't seem to want to play back. Anytime he gets close to her, she hisses and growls. Although this gets us nervous, Lenny still tries to play with her. She normally runs and hides but he is right behind her. We have always broken them up when this happens but we are not sure if she is playing or going into attack/defense mode. We know Lenny is playing but not sure about her. He is a rough player too. If she runs away where he can't get to her, he will cry until he sees her again. We are not sure what we should do or to know if she is playing also. Any suggestions on what we should do or know if they playing.

Asked by Member 1152141 on Jan 27th 2013 Tagged fighting, playing, hiding, growling, hissing in Aggression
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Izadore (Izzie)

Are they both "fixed"? If even one is not, do that first. Usually, when cats fight, there's no doubt about what's going on. They shriek and howl, their fur puffs up, their ears go back, they show their fangs and their eyes get huge and bulge out. and it's just very nasty-looking. There could be blood and fur flying. But, when cats play it can sound serious, too. Usually, they only play for a few minutes and then go their separate ways. I would caution you about trying to separate them as you could be bitten or clawed. Lenny sounds like the dominant one of the two of them. I know that if they are playing, you don't want to put a stop to it, but if they're fighting, you do. Try distracting Lenny and making his life more interesting by playing with him (and Skittles if she joins in) with feather teasers and even teach him to play fetch. If things get really nasty, you may have to put Lenny in a "time out" room for a few minutes when it happens. Little brothers...!! Good luck!

Izadore (Izzie) answered on 1/28/13. Helpful? Yes/Helpful: No 1 Report this answer