|Purred: Sat Nov 10, '12 1:55pm PST |
I know, its stressful! your Boyfriend ,and yourself must be pretty miffed off and tired at the moment so please dont make any descisions just now.
Im going to put down some thoughts,because i can relate to your situation, when i read this to my boyfreind he had a giggle (i know its not funny but he had the same problem with both of our male cats so he can realate too) and i dont want you to think im being condesending!
Your kitty is still really young, and to be fair....he has alot to learn about how to be a ''good'' house kitty.
Ok, so the feet under the bed sheets...its really easily solved! honest!
It takes a couple of trys...or days for kitty to click on but have a go and percevere with it...
1-dont let kitty play with, attack, stalk or pounce on your hands or feet (simple huh hahah NOT!) i know, i still fall into the trap !
2-When your kitty hurts your hands or feet, pick him up, or move away from him saying NO!!! Dont shout but use a clear affirmative tone.
3-offer him a toy instead. When i go to bed my crazy kitten follows me through...but im always prepared with a toy ...so when Gizzy pounces up for his last play of the day hes not after my feet, Try to tire him out before you sleep that way kitty is less likely to annoy you while getting some well needed rest.
So hes also scratching your furniture and generally just being a little TERROR, unfortuately alot of this can and will be put down to him being very young, but the bonus to that is that he is still very young!!! Cats are alot better learners in their first few months so start now by letting him know what is acceptable and what is not.
Scratching is a natural behaviour so all you need to do is make sure he knows where to do it heres a few ideas.
1-put the scratcher(s) you want him to use in a place easily accessible and frequented by the cats.
2- One thing i knooow cats hate is to snag thier nails on fabrics...so find the places hes using to scratch that you dont want him to and cover it completely in something he will hate....loosely woven netting such as net curtains for example....get it all covered or hidden away.
3-one of the best things you can do is to praise praise prasie and praise again when your kitty does use the scratcher he is suppossed to...he will soon recognise this is a good behaviour with a reward such as a treat or some soft words and a stroke (treats work best!! haha)
4- Try to make your scartchers as inticing as posible put treats on or in them, hang toys all around it etc...or try different types.Alot of cats like to have a stretch and a scratch after waking so try calling him over to the scratcher so he can use it after a cat nap.
So really i do know it is soooo dificult when you see thier tiny faces and have such stress and worry because of the chaos they are causing but its all about adjustment, we ourselves growing up have to learn about how to act in a sociabally acceptable way....we are taught..where to go to the toilet, what language to use, how to behave in certain situations and we are mostly taught this by our parents and by the people we grow up with such as teachers and other authority figures....you are the authority in your household and youve got the power and sometimes frustratingly the responsibility to teach him what is acceptable behaviour. I am not for one second saying that you are not trying and that your are shirking responsibilty im just trying to encourage you to sit it out, and to be patient, He will learn, and things will get better, and also.....its coming up to the time when he is due to be neutered....so things are going to get better and more harmonious....put it this way...my partner was raving two months ago about Gizmo being a little S*** and a pain in the bum....looking over at my sofa right NOW....and they are cuddling quite the thing! HA!
Hopefully this will help a bit, feel free to vent here, about it and will try and come up with ways to help!
Hope you are well , and hopefully having a good nights sleep.
--Natasha, Gizmo, Batfink and Roguey Puss.x
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