|Purred: Mon Jul 23, '12 12:03pm PST |
|OK kits, we're not gonna declaw Jellybean. It was just a thought that crossed my dad's mind for a second, something he thought we'd have to do if push came to shove, but we're not going that route. I'm sorry if my post came off as if we were absolutely positively gonna do it. I would also like to thank everybody for not flaming me for doing what we have to do. It is a very heart breaking decision, but one that we can't avoid given our circumstances. We adopted Jellybean in 2005 when I was still in high school and my mom was relatively healthy. . We had no way of knowing how sick she would become in 2008 and just get worse from there. To give you a breakdown of what my mom has been through, she has fought both thyroid and breast cancer in the last 4 years, the first of which had already gone to the third stage, and the latter only at the first stage, thank catness. She has also fallen 3 times and recently had an accident with the conveyor belt at the DFW airport in Texas. Next week she will have to take more radioactive treatment for the thyroid. To top it all off, she has severe osteal parosis, so has a very hard time with stairs and cannot do the kitty litter, so it has become mine and my dad's job. My mom's faith and determination is what keeps her going, as well as the Jelly girl, so it'll be the most heartbreaking for her to not have Jellybean anymore. I personally think leaving Jellybean with Jen is the best option. That way my parents can visit when they return to Canada. My mom and Jen see each other several times a week anyway, so there would be plenty of visits. My mom has also said in the past that if anything happened to her, she would want her animals to go to Jen.
Josh the ex never met her. I was the one who went to see him. After our last visit, he has not answered any of my phone calls/emails. I've only called him after the breakup just for the hell of it, no particular reason. I was bored and had no one else to talk to. I probably wouldn't give him Jellybean now even if we were still together because he's moving to a different place with 3 other guys that I don't know in the fall, so my mom would say no. I only considered rehoming Jellybean with Josh when we were together and our relationship was good. He had talked about getting a cat, and that's when I considered giving him Jellybean. After our breakup, I figured if he didn't have the time and patience for me, why would I give him the most precious member of my family?
Have any of you ever had to rehome animals before? Would you ever rehome them with ex's? I personally wouldn't because if they don't want me around, I am not gonna give them the most precious members of my family. Jellybean has been in my life a lot longer than Josh has. Even though I say I'm not too into her, everyone knows it's not true. With Josh, I'd always worry about whether I'd hear from him, whether I'd see him, and have to plan out every visit. Jellybean was always there 24-7. I was only with Josh for 1 month, and Jellybean was in my life for 7 happy years. I think the rehoming of Jellybean will help me discover what the most important things in life are.
Sorry for the long post, just needed to get that out there.
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