|Purred: Tue Dec 5, '06 8:09am PST |
|I don't know if anyone will have any helpful advice. This is something I've been dealing with Merlin since a few months after we got him - in 1996. Inappropriate urination. He was approximately 4 months old when we got him, and according to the rescue they found him in a box in their dumpster with some other cats, and his whiskers were cut off. Now that I have been living with my fiance for the past 5 months things are getting scarier for my Mer-cat because nobody wants to put up with him anymore.
Over the years he has been tested several times for urinary tract infections, and his litter was changed several times until we finally settled with what we currently use since he seemed to like that the best.
It's hard to predict when and where he will urinate. My mother is a regular at antique auctions and purchases and hand-refurbishes some very expensive pieces. Merlin has destroyed a $700 original condition chair, a $300 slightly newer chair, and some less expensive pieces in their basement.
I'm diligent about keeping his pan quite clean, as well as always having fresh water on hand, keeping him groomed, brush his teeth, etc.
The ONLY pattern I have ever picked up in his urinating is he prefers bunched up plastic bags, and bunched up fabric like an un-made bed or a blanket on the sofa or something.
However now he is urinating on a futon in our spare room over and over again. Fortunately I can simply remove the sheet and the canvas mattress cover and throw them in the wash but this is very irritating. Yesterday he urinated on my bed right in front of me. He never "sprays", it is always a regular pee.
I can no longer leave him unsupervised, even if for only 30 seconds. We purchased a fairly large, 2-level cat playpen that his litter pan and food/water now subside in and he must go in it when we go out, or even if I just go to the basement to do laundry, or anything, really. If I'm in the bathroom taking a shower, he has to be in there with me.
He is also very randomly agressive, despite me trying to re-direct his aggression to his toys instead of my arms over the years. I have 10 years worth of scars up and down my forearms. For a long time people thought I was doing it to myself. He does this completely unprovoked. He has always been disciplined for bad behavior with a stern NO and being put in a 'time-out'....it's hard to even play with him because he gets way too rough too fast. He only behaves this way to people he knows well, i.e. people he lives with. Visitors and people at boarding facilities never fail to compliment on how "nice" he is.
Is there something blatantly obvious I am missing? Merlin is my first cat and with all of the problems he has caused over the years I feel like he's the last. All cats cannot possibly be like this. When I was younger and he'd attack my neck while I was sleeping, there were so many times my father threatened to return him to the rescue or to put him to sleep. My fiance cannot understand why I clutch so tightly to this miserable cat who pees everywhere, bites me, and hates to be held. But no one ever sees when it's just me and him alone and he's been sleeping a while and I lay next to him and squeeze his paws and he purrs.
Has anyone else EVER had a cat like this? What did you do? I don't want Merlin to be doomed to live out his days in his playpen 24 hours a day - it seems like the direction he's headed in. I feel like I have failed entirely. 10 years and I have never been able to help him get better like I always promised I would as a child.
Edited by author Tue Dec 5, '06 8:15am PST
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