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New to Catster/Tips & Tricks > Site Feedback?
Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Wed Feb 25, '09 8:30pm PST 
Is there a way to give feedback about the site?

I really think that the Forums here on Catster need a new addition!

Why isn't there a Litter Box forum? Issues related to litter don't quite go into grooming, and they don't always have anything to do with training.

Just a suggestion. It's a pretty important aspect of cat ownership and I feel it deserves its own forum. wink

Meow meow! Don't worry, we still think Catster is great!

» There has since been 1 post. Last posting by Apollo (In Memory), Feb 25 9:34 pm

Saying Goodbye: Memorials & Support > Does the pain ever end?
Jake

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Purred: Wed Mar 26, '08 7:39am PST 
I would like to offer a slightly unconventional suggestion... I don't know what sort of a spiritual life you lead, but you may want to try a heart-to-heart connection with your little girl. It's a form of meditation. It may not give you any answers but it might make you feel a little more at peace. If nothing else, it cannot hurt and might soothe you, if only for an afternoon.

Find a quiet and comfortable spot where you feel safe and happy, and let yourself find a relaxed position you feel you can stay still in for a time. Breathe slowly and deeply from your belly (feel your belly move as you breathe... maybe put a hand on your tummy to help you focus on this). When you start to feel very relaxed and a little spacey, concentrate on your kitty. See her, feel her, hear, smell, and touch her, in your mind. Picture her favorite places to sleep, the foods she liked to eat, objects she enjoyed, games she liked to play. When you feel you have her firmly in her mind, start to talk to her, either in your mind, or by speaking softly (maybe even whispering). Some believe this establishes a connection with her, heart to heart, and you can then communicate. Whether you believe that or not, it might still be a valuable tool to help yourself come to terms with this... whether the messages you receive in this state come from your kitty or from deep inside yourself, you will be amazed at the healing that can come from this kind of concentrated meditation!

Tell her anything that comes to mind. Tell her you miss her. If you're not ready for her to go yet, and you need her with you, tell her so. If you want to be open to what she might have needed to do next, whether in life or in death, and you want to release her to go and do those things, tell her so. Tell her it kills you but you'll do it, because you love her. Tell her you pray that she is safe and happy, wherever she may be.

If there are powers beyond knowing, I know the message will get to your cat. If that is not your thing, know that this can be a good way to open your own mind and receive the kind of advice from yourself that you can't get from waiting and worrying.

We wish you love and to find peace in your heart... we have also experienced pets that have gone missing and it is heartrending.

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Saying Goodbye: Memorials & Support > Is it time? How do we know?

Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Mon Mar 24, '08 9:07am PST 
Oh kitties, thank you, this has helped. Thank you so much for all the very thoughtful responses! At least we know we've been doing things right by him.

Jake leads an incredible life. He is a very hardy kitty! He's seen a lot of hardships and given us "death scares" more than a few times... wears his nine lives pretty thin, MOL! In his advancing years he's frightened us with near death episodes only twice so far, so considering his past track record in this he's not done so bad.

He has two vets, both of whom are very good. A couple times, we thought we'd have to put him down... he was throwing up everything he ate and losing ground fast. Then we started the supplements in the food, a "pro-biotic" and one for digestion, and now he eats without vomiting. He also now has Duffy in the house, and they play together and we hope this keeps them young! He doesn't clean himself so well anymore so we have to wipe and brush him at times but he gets around okay.

He's got stairs down from his major napping spots but he is still stubborn about jumping down from things. He doesn't like to give up his independence. For example, the other day he was on my lap and wanted down. I was lifting him slowly and gently (I try to be sure to support him without hurting him when I pick him up, I worry about his arthritis) and he wasn't having any of that "old man coddling nonsense" and jumped out of my arms... he stumbled badly and landed right on his face.

Speaking of his face! He has a cut on his nose that has been there for months. It doesn't heal. It is not infected or anything, just a red mark that never goes away. His fur doesn't have the sheen or texture it once did, probably at least in part because his lack of ability to groom (we try to help him out but he's not got much patience for a brush).

So... he's deteriorating a bit, but at least we know he's still happy.

The vets say he is mostly just a very old cat. He may or may not have a problem with his thyroid but the diagnosis and treatment of that is money my parents don't really have to spare at the moment. (He's a family cat, and lives with the folks). It's a bit difficult in that regard also because Dad isn't much of a cat person and he thinks taking care of Jake is too much hassle and expense when he is so feeble... Dad kind of sees Jake's weakness as a sign that he needs to go, he was the sort who had outdoor dogs growing up and takes a more "practicalist" view. Mom and I were concerned because Dad said we were being selfish to prolong his life when he "can't do anything anymore" but he didn't seem, to us, to be ready to die, so I came here for help because, as I said before, I didn't want a repeat of Garth, who really was in misery when it was finally time for him to go. Misery that, I'm sad to say, we probably prolonged out of our own selfish need for him to stay.

So thank you again, Catsters, we know that Jake's okay so we don't have to feel guilty anymore.

WE LOVE YOU!

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» There has since been 5 posts. Last posting by Abbie (always in my heart), Apr 14 3:42 pm


Saying Goodbye: Memorials & Support > Is it time? How do we know?

Jake

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Purred: Sun Mar 23, '08 11:18am PST 
Jake is... well, he's not a spring chicken anymore.

BUT. My mom and I are really at a loss here, because we don't know if it's "time" yet. Our last kitty, Garth... we kind of kept him going for far too long because we couldn't let go (he had been my late sister's cat) and we don't want to repeat this with Jake. But at the same time, we don't want to just coldheartedly kill him either. We're really wrestling with the decision and having a hard time with it.

He can't eat without special additives in his food, and he's skinny as a rail. However, his appetite is intact, in fact he eats three cans a day and whatever scraps he can weasel out of us (usually not hard to do).

He's stiff. We think he suffers from arthritis... occasionally he has to have a cortisone shot. He doesn't clean himself so well, he's stiff when he walks, and he stumbles if he tries to jump down from things. He still wants very much to be petted but sometimes when we pet him he cries and bites, we think because it hurts him, but then he's rubbing for more attention again.

He sleeps an awful lot but he still gets around, wants to be in on things, wants to be petted, to explore and play. This is why we can't seem to make the decision... he can't do things as well anymore but he still tries and obviously WANTS to...

He's in some obvious discomfort, but is life still good for him? How will we know when it's time for him to go? Garth didn't really let us know, I think because he knew we needed him. Will Jake do the same thing?

I'm afraid to make him suffer and I'm afraid to send him before it's time. I am not sure what to do...

Any guidance or comfort would be appreciated. Thank you, Catsters.

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Catster Lifestyle, News & Entertainment > Cats SAVE lives

Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Fri Mar 7, '08 9:44pm PST 
Ten huzzahs for this article! May the implications start allowing more of the nation to be petfriendly!!

I've also heard of cats saving lives during the war by alerting to incoming bombers. Some even got a Dickon medal and an honored burial, when they died, in a special cemetary for military animals, with the headstone We Also Serve. So cool!

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Behavior & Training > I like biting
Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Tue Feb 19, '08 7:43pm PST 
Hmm. It doesn't sound like he wants to hurt you, it sounds like he's communicating with you. Are the bites hard and painful, or breaking the skin/ drawing blood? Just like how some humans talk with their hands, some cats are "mouth expressive." Maybe he IS trying to boss you around... or maybe he's trying to be either playful or affectionate.

Or, maybe he's just seen that it gets a rise out of you and that gives him a kitty thrill. If it bothers you, but scoldings or sprayings or loud noises aren't working, maybe you should try withdrawing all attention or stimulation for a bit after he bites, as in just ignoring him completely and not doing anything "entertaining."

I'll admit, naughty mom that I am I'd have laughed my tush off at his impish behavior after the bite-and-run you described! Sounds like you have a real character on your hands!

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Raw Food Diet > Weirdest raw question ever

Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Tue Jul 3, '07 9:49am PST 
Just don't let any pregnant ladies clean the litterbox and you'll be okay. :3

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Behavior & Training > Can I crate the cat?

Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Sun Jun 24, '07 6:26pm PST 
Even if it is a little "unorthodox," it's safe and seems to not bother your kitty, and in fact seems to be making her happier than other options. So I think you'd be worrying needlessly to wonder that it isn't a good idea. It might not work for all cats, but since it's working for this situation I think it's a great idea, and you should pat yourself on the back for thinking of something that pleased everyone and kept your whole little family safe, comfy, and happy. :3

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Other Meows & Purrs > A Very Odd and Worrying Dream!

Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Tue Apr 17, '07 2:54pm PST 
Thank you everyone! big grin

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Other Meows & Purrs > A Very Odd and Worrying Dream!
Jake

The World: your- oyster, my- napping space

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Purred: Mon Apr 16, '07 5:05pm PST 
This morning I woke up with a start after a TERRIBLE nightmare!

I dreamed that Jake had gotten horribly hurt and was dying... I was so upset that I called my mom (at 7:30 AM... lucky that mum's an early riser!) to make sure he was all right. Boy was I relieved to hear that he is!

It made me super concerned though. He's getting on in years... mostly he doesn't show his age, except that he can't really keep weight on too well despite a hefty apetite and the fact that he's got a scratchie on his nose that never seems to heal. What if this dream is a warning that he's going to leave? I'm not ready to say goodbye...

I just wanted a little reassurance from fellow Catsters, whom, I am pretty sure, wouldn't scoff at me for feeling paranoid after a bad dream...

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