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STOP MOMMY FROM MAKING A HUGE MISTAKE!

  
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Eve

NOOOOO! let me- do it!		 
 
Purred: Wed Jul 26, '06 2:54pm PST 
I don't know where to start- you all know our situation by now (fighting for 9 months) and we JUST FINALLY STARTED TO GET ALONG...well Mommy and Daddy have been talking behind our backs.
They want to adopt a baby boy.
ARE THEY OUT OF THEIR MINDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mommy has this crazy idea (Dad too) that one more kitten right now won't upset Emma. THEY HAVE TO BE KIDDING ME. Mom and Dad really, really want another kitten (they think a boy may be better this time) and Mom has a whole month to devote to it - she is a teacher, so she's off for the summer. Mom and Dad have been putting their feelings aside about wanting to adopt another kitten for months now out of respect for Emma. They know that I would really love and benefit from another playmate, but what about my big sis? I just started to like her - I don't want her getting all mad at me or someone else again....Emma is a much older kitty than me, but if they wait too long, than they can never get another one because then I will be too old to want a playmate! They don't want to leave me all by myself some day! Are they out of their minds???? Mommy always gets these "baby urges" but thankfully she talks herself out of them. This time, I'm not so sure....Is this the worst idea you have ever heard?????

Patrick

fat cats are- where its at		 
 
Purred: Thu Jul 27, '06 12:28pm PST 
Well I might be a tad biased but I think boys are cool!

Honestly our mom has had cats all of her life and she thinks it really has more to do with personality of the cats, than the sex or even number of cats (although over crowding is never a good idea).

Basically all three of us get along- because I am the boss and neither of the 2 girls wants to challenge my superiorness. Both of them had come from multi-cat households and both were used to the feline pecking order.

Once they figured out they were living under the law of King Patrick -all was well.

When Gigi was alive- things were different- she and I BOTH wanted to be alpha cat and fought all of the time. It was not pleasant.

If possible I would recommend asking about the kitten's personality and trying to find one who is docile and used to being the low kitty on the totem pole.

Sometimes getting a cat who is in foster care or from a cat rescue is best when looking for a new family member- because the foster parents will often have a good idea of the cats personailty.

I do think your folks should be prepared however -that its likely to take a bit of time for a new kitty to be accepted.

Look how long it took Emma to accept you! Are they prepared to go through that again if it comes to that?

Also you will definitely need three litter boxes etc.

but if all of that is ok with your folks and they are willing to hang in there if things are rough in the beginning- I say go for it!

That kitty would eventually have a wonderful home!

Patrick

PS Boys Rock!
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emma

you're not the- boss of me		 
 
Purred: Thu Jul 27, '06 2:08pm PST 
Patrick! Of all cats???? I thought you would say no way to another brat! Darn....
Mommy did a happy dance when she saw the words "go for it"! Mommy of course would get another cat from a rescue, probably where she got eve - What you did mention that is very important is finding who is the low man on the totem pole!!!! What perfect thinking!!!! Mom always seems to go towards the nut cases (For ex- Eve) I bet she could find a really docile non alpha (beta?) kitten. THANK YOU - Mom and Dad still have a LOT of thinking to do...and never want to repeat the same mistake...we shall see....


Patrick

fat cats are- where its at		 
 
Purred: Fri Jul 28, '06 6:38am PST 
Hey there Emma!

The truth is siblings CAN be great IF they know their place.

You just need to be sure as senior cat of the household everyone (and this also includes any humans in the house) knows who the real boss is.

I have come to like my "little harum" smile

Besides - you can also use them to blame things on (But Mom- I wasn't the one who shredded the toilet paper- must have been that naughty Isabel-cat!)

It gives you the opportunity to be the "good" kitty once in a while and earn brownie points.


Let us know what happens

Patrick (the boss of the house)
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Eve

NOOOOO! let me- do it!		 
 
Purred: Sun Jul 30, '06 5:53am PST 
They are still thinking and thinking and thinking about a new baby....Right now, they are asking our vet (they help adopt out kittens in the office) because they want to have a few "play dates" before bringing home a kitten that will drive us both crazy. If only they had a crystal ball to tell them the future....

Isabel

breakfast is to- be served at- 5:30		 
 
Purred: Sun Jul 30, '06 12:56pm PST 
I am not so sure that a few play dates will tell you every much- after all it took almost an entire year for you and emma to begin to get along. There is bound to be some hissing in the beginning even if things ultimately turn our great.

Little fraidy-cat Bianca hissed at me for six weeks and now the two us are best friends (mom says that its a good thing that we are both indoor cats and fixed becuase the 2 of us like to party all night long).

I think your folks just need to decided one way or the other if this is what they want to do and if they are committed to sticking it out no matter what. There are bound to be at the very least a few tough weeks in the beginning.
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Eve

NOOOOO! let me- do it!		 
 
Purred: Sun Jul 30, '06 2:32pm PST 
Your'e probably right, Mom has this dream that she will bring home a new kitten and we will both love it instantly! Ha!
They said they visited some baby boys today, but none of them "spoke" to them like I did (and my sisters). They did see one they liked, but he was obviously sick and my mom said something to the rescue lady. She picked him up and wiped the crud from his nose and said he was fine! We don't like this rescue org! Poor baby kept sneezing! Now she is worried about him and hoping he feels better....they are going back next weekend to see if he has been adopted/and or still sick. If he is still sick, mommy will probably take him home only so that he can go to the vet...

Isabel

breakfast is to- be served at- 5:30		 
 
Purred: Mon Jul 31, '06 6:49am PST 
Upper respiratory infections are pretty common in kittens but they need to be taken seriously.

Cats sense of smell is very important to them and if they become so congested that they can not smell their own food they often stop eating!

Usually the infections do clear up by themselves but you need to carefully watch a cat and kitten with a "cold".

Believe it or not this happened to Patrick when our mom brought him home from the animal shelter. He needed IV fluids because he had become dehydrated.

But the other thing to keep in mind is that they are often contagious (sp?) - so you mom should make sure he has seen a vet before possibly exposing you and emma.
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Eve

NOOOOO! let me- do it!		 
 
Purred: Mon Jul 31, '06 7:59am PST 
I know, you are absolutely right. Mom would literally just take the kitten to the vet and pay for it and return to the rescue people that same day if she couldn't adopt it. I am sure they wouldn't mind letting us borrow him to take him to the doctor. It broke her heart to see their dirty ears and that baby's cold. She never heard of this rescue org before and is going to do some research on them...but, like my Dad said - I came home with an eye infection and worms and my foster home took really good care of me, some things are unavoidable.

Isabel

breakfast is to- be served at- 5:30		 
 
Purred: Tue Aug 1, '06 6:34am PST 
Oh you are definitely right!

I had worms too and I came from a great foster home! I just wanted you mom to know if she didn't already that these things can be contagious.

Also if his ears look "dirty" he might have ear mites which is all the more erason for him to go to the vet!
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