|Purred: Mon Dec 10, '12 1:31pm PST |
|Hi, I understand completely. We have a foster here right now that I love. he's darling, sits in my lap, purrs, puts his paws on my face. He has big ears and I simply love him.
That said, he deserves a chance to have a home where there will be less cats. We went into fostering to save cats, and get them good homes. We have one 'failed foster' and if it were up to me, I would keep Calvin, but we aren't wealthy, and our food bill for our cats exceeds 100 a week sometimes.
You make a complelling argument for giving your little girl up....and for keeping her. I understand the emotions. We kept Midnight because CK loved him, and wanted a buddy near his own age, and when Delilah got adopted CK was depressed fora while.
Calvin is a different story. We got him becuase he was 'cage aggressive' and supposedly a 'hard to adopt cat'. I can't figure that out, myself. he's very very playful, is into everything, climbs cabinets, knocks over garbage, gets on the counters, plays in the fountain...in short, he's a kitten.
And if you do your job as a good foster, you know what...your heart will break but you will be able to keep in touch with adoptors, get pictures of 'your baby' in their new home, and go 'wow....I did good!'
When I get pictures of Delilah and Emily Rose in their new homes, being loved and cherished, I smile through the tears. I missed each perfect little one...but I know they are in good homes-I communicate with their people.
I can tell you that you would not be a good foster mom if you didn't feel the way you do. And sometimes-you do keep them. But you must weigh out the practicalites of what that means. I always wanted a multicat home, my cats are my kids, and I know that each of them are special to me. That said, each foster is too, and they can stay as long as they like til we get them the perfect and most wonderful home.
Let the rescue you are fostering for know you would like to meet the adoptor-most rescues encourage since you know so much about your foster. It may give you a feeling of connection, and relief. If you dn't like somoene let them know, too. You are not required to hand your foster over to anyone you don't feel 100 per cent about.
the feelings you have are so normal....I feel them to. I love Calvin so much.
And I know that he will get a home with someone who will love him and give him what he needs...
Thank you for risking your heart, and putting yourself out there. Thank you for fostering and saving a life.
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