Don't tell, but,- I'M training- MOM!
|Purred: Tue Mar 17, '09 7:12am PST |
|BeBe's right. Get a lawyer. I don’t know how you are equipped financially, but I think you are going to have to fork out enough for a lawyer or private detective if you really want to save your cat. I don’t have high hopes for the detective, tho. I'd put my money on a lawyer. Right now you need help from someone with calm composure and cunning. If you can't find or afford a lawyer, enlist the help of a friend who is less emotionally invested (a guy if possible, they can figure each other better than we can). He can give you "guy" feedback and he might even help you with spying, planning or intimidation. Only don't get him to beat up anyone, it won't help. In fact, it will most likely hurt your case ...or get you &/or your friend locked up.
Another tip - never ask one cop the law. I have nothing against cops, but if you happen to ask the wrong one and he doesn't know, or care, he will most likely tell you what he needs to in order to get you off his back. Ask him for the name of his sergeant if he gets an attitude with you & tell his sergeant your problem. Or, if you don’t feel comfortable with that, ask one of his comrades. A female cop or a K9 cop may be more sympathetic. When you do this, have copies of emails, recorded phone conversations &/or photos your ex is using to taunt you with. Also, the more calm you are when you do this, the more likely a man is to help. Sadly, some men just disengage emotionally when a case involves what they call “a hysterical woman.” The more calm you stay, the more you will help your cat.
It sounds like this idiot is probably more interested in the stir he rises in you than the cat itself. If he truly doesn't care about the cat, he may not still have it. Check out all animal shelters and animal adoption organizations within as many surrounding counties as you deem him capable of driving to and then some. Get their take on it. Remember, Animal Control is a branch of law enforcement. And spy on his animal loving friends, or his new flame, if he has one, he may have given your cat to one of them. Don’t count on asking for their help, tho, if they are his friends, their empathy and loyalty will more likely lie with him. But if one of them has the cat now, nab it back, when they let it out for a pee, if you can.
Good luck! I truly hope you get your cat back!