|Purred: Mon Feb 20, '12 11:04am PST |
|I can empathize only because I was in a similar situation. Wallace is 1 year old and we have had him for six months now but the first month we had him was a big struggle and it created a bond that can never be touched, in my opinion. When my friend found him on the side of the road, he weight under 3 lbs (6 months old, mind you) and have severe pneumonia. They got him on medicine for it and he was recovering well when they gave him to us. After he finished his medication, I took him to the vet for a little checkup to see if he was well enough to get the rest of his shots and be neutered. We were all in the clear (except for a little cough attributed to scarring from the pneumonia) and he was neutered that day. Four days after we brought him home from the vet, he was deathly ill. It started with vomiting and passing nothing but clear mucus but it progressed into an awful fever. He wouldn't eat or drink. As soon as the vet opened the next morning, we were in there for an emergency visit. To make a lengthy story short, he was diagnosed with panleukopenia, a virus that kills most kittens. He was put on an IV, given steroids, antibiotics, and two blood transfusions to keep his system strong enough to create an antibody. The vet said she didn't think he'd make it; he started to become very cold and lethargic but he pulled through and this is a long winded way of saying I formed such a strong bond with Wallace, I do not believe anything will ever surpass it. I know that could be awful, but the look on his face when he was in quarantine at the vet's is something I will never forget.
After he got well, his energy skyrocketed and he became the playful kitten he was supposed to be. I go to school and work so I felt bad for leaving him home alone so much, especially because he is really such a social kitty. After talking with my fiancee, we decided to find a compatible companion kitten for Wallace. We found Newton, a 7 month old who was described as cuddly, yet very playful. They sounded perfect for each other, and they were within the same age range so we adopted him from the Humane Society.
Newton is a wonderful, yet VERY mischievous kitten. He gets into EVERYTHING, much more than Wallace. Wallace is playful, but never destructive. It took me a while to warm up to Newton, as it did Wallace. Now they play with each other (even though oddly, Newton is the more dominant one - I had a hard time with that one) and groom each other daily. One day I walked in to see them curled up in a little ball together sleeping and I knew it was a good match.
My point is, no furry family member will EVER take the place of Wallace in my heart and it was hard to find a balance - giving attention to each one without upsetting the other. However, Newton ended up being wonderful for Wallace. I don't worry so much when I'm gone for the majority of the day. For that reason, I DO love Newton very much. He has a great, outgoing personality and he's afraid of nothing. I do get upset when he gets into things but he's quirky; what can I do? Give your new kitty a chance. It's okay to get attached to another pet. There are so many types of love, don't compare the feelings you have for Sasha with the feelings you have for your new guy. They will always be different. I do not feel the same way about Newton as I do Wallace, but I love them BOTH very much. Give it some time. I really do think your kitty needs a friend.
Sorry for the crazy long rant.
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