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It's pretty much garunteed that Velcro is pregnant. I can't take this now.
Athena Marie I shake my- fluffy tail on- the cat walk!
Purred: Wed Aug 20, '08 10:06am PST
I too agree with everyone else who has posted. I have read most of your other posts regarding this entire situation. Honestly... I would find a good home, or no kill shelter for velcro, because your household certainly does not permit for pets, nor does your situation seem to. I'd get your situation straightened out and get a stable environment for yourself before you decided to drag any animals into the situation with you. Animals don't have as much control over things as we seem to, so their survival (our pets) is up to us. If I could, I would take Velcro, but I am aware that my situation (Athena wanting to be the boss, and the only boss) does not permit me to do so. Be aware of your limits, and know when it is time to give in. Slow down, think calmly and rationally, and do what is best for velcro, this is not about you. It is about what is best for her. End of story.
If you don't want to rehome Velcro then I would MOVE. Get away from the people causing you stress, it's just not worth it. If I understand correctly you are also engaged and are waiting to be more financially sound to get married. If you love each other just go down to the courthouse sign the stupid paper and have the "big day" five years down the road when you are stable, remember it's the life time together that counts not that one day.
Some times we do things out of emotion and not logic. Right now for your sanity and Velcro's do things out of Logic and not emotion. You will be sooooo much happier for it.
I understand that you have seen 2 vets and that velcro is too critical to get her spayed. But Rhino is a stress condition the more stressed she is the sicker she will be and someone has already said it she is most probably feeding off your stess.
Simplest solution get rid of your stess (move far far away from the crazys - sorry I know it's your family and you love them but that is how you are explaining them.) Then Velcro may get better enough to get spayed and then reduce your stess even more.
Rasha has herpes and has been outbreak free for over a year. Stress is a huge factor in that as well as nutrition. Rasha has a ZERO stress level (except for when I run the vacuum). I keep everything quiet for him, he has a whole room to himself (and Cheetah) with all the things he likes plus I leave the closet door open so he can hide if he needs to and the blinds open so he can sit on the window sill. Before all that he was staying with friends, other cats and dogs, allowed to have run of the house and eat their crappy foods.... he was having outbreaks all the time. The stress needs to be cut back, nutrition needs to be at it's highest (not sure what you feed, no offense of course!) and then maybe she will be fit to be spayed. This has to happen or she will have to be re-homed. SOMEONE out there has to be willing to do SOMETHING. I know how frustrating it is to try and care for your animals when other people interfere.... trust me I have been there. We moved out with all 5 of our fur-kids and things have been so great for us all. We have very little money but the stress of living like that was too much to handle. Good luck and I hope you are able to find a solution fast.
I am just going to speak up in defense of Velcro and her mom. She rescued Velcro from a life on the streets. She tried for months to find her another home with no luck. All the shelters there are kill shelters. The closest no kill is in the next state and it is the shelter mom volunteers at. They are so full with cats that they have temporarily had to put a hold on intake.
They live in a smaller town with not a lot of options for vets and those that are there won't spay her for some reason. I totally AGREE with all of you that she needs to be spayed.
I don't want to start any arguments but I just wanted to speak up because I know Velcro's mom is trying really hard to do right by her girl and has been faced with many obstacles to overcome.
I don't want to start an argument with you either, Lulu. I very well understand the situation. But at this point, Velcro's mom needs to accept that she is basically too stressed about the situation to deal with it rationally, and maybe needs to cats her net wider.
Worst case scenario, she needs to consider whether she doesn't want to look at shelters in other parts of the state, and if she can get a commitment from one of them that they will help her with Velcro, she might want to get the Catster railroad to help her get Velcro relocated as far away as needed.
I'm having problems being spayed myself, in my case because Boris' stupid vet thinks I am too young to be spayed right now. Mom thinks it's unacceptable for her to have to wait until I am six months or older, when there are at least two vet hospitals in her area (she asked friends about it) that would have spayed me a month ago. Funnily enough, they are low cost/spay neuter programs that mom and dad would not qualify for income wise, but she might just try and talk them into helping her in exchange of donations so they can care for pets whose owners can't afford it.
Mom is discussing with dad ditching Boris' vet long term because of it, so mom understand Velcro's mom frustration... But sometimes you just gotta try harder, and getting mad where the stress doesn't help the cat is not helpful. Like dad says to mom: you can waste time being mad all the time, or use that energy to find a solution.
I have never heard of a vet not spaying. I would get her spayed IMMEDIATELY. If you don't like one vet's response, go to another. And what's wrong with your brother that he won't get his male cat neutered? Come on. What is going on here? Both of you: get to the vet NOW.
Get her spayed ASAP. I have never in all my time working with animals, heard of a vet that will not spay a cat with herpes virus.
My cat Chloe, has chronic herpes virus, and was spayed.
I'm really sorry to hear that. People at my parents house are the same way, rules? What rules! They watched my two boys and the stray, I tell them not to let the stray out of the kennel, next day I get a phone call about how they let him out, he spraed the room and is fighting with my boys. It's like it wasn't stressed.
People...and I'm sure my brother would of acted the same way. Why is it people with male cats don't think thy need to get them neutered? Granted, their cat won't come hom pregnant but ugh.
I'd call to some shelters if ou haven't already. Explain your situation, they may point you to a vet that wll do it. My favorite shelter pointed me towards 2 low-cost clinics I wasn't aware of. I know that means you loose out on that donation, which sucks, but you have to do what you need to do. I got that stray neutered even though I couldn't afford it. Ended up borrowin mony from family, but it had to be done asap.
Kind of like how people are when they have girls vs. boys.....the sex talk is way different. It's okay for boys to "play around" and not girls. Probably like that with some people not neutering their boy cats.
Velcro, are you able to find a friend who can take you for a bit then you can go home to mommy when things are settled and okay? I lived at someone else's house for 6 months...hated it but now I am back home with my mommy!!
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It's like it wasn't stressed.
