|Purred: Wed Jul 30, '14 12:37pm PST |
|I need help with my 7 month old male Ragdoll. We've had other cats before but none were ever like this guy. Also,he's our first "breeder cat".
Starting at about 4 months old he became increasingly distant. We had him neutered at 5 months because he was starting to get a little aggressive, and we wanted to make sure he didn't start marking. We thought by fixing him he might also revert back to his old ways 6 weeks or so after the surgery, but he hasn't.
He used to ALWAYS sit by me on the couch and sometimes in my lap. Now, he will rarely get in either of our laps - only to get his treat and leave. He gets extremely annoyed at more than a stroke or two of petting and will get up and move a few feet or more away. He still follows me a lot, he solicit purrs and "flops down" (the ragdoll flop) only when I'm in the kitchen and he knows he's getting food. He will sometimes solicit purr when we approach him but then will quickly move out of reach after a stroke of petting. He doesn't like contact much AT ALL anymore. He used to sleep by our heads at night, but now prefers the cold, wood floor - its always very cool in our house, so it's not that he's hot, but I understand cat regularly change sleeping spots. We give him his space and never hold him beyond his will. We've tried showering him with lots of attention and playing hard to get, pretending like we are uninterested but neither method worked on to get him to open up.
We've never abused him or mistreated him and only shown him love and affection. I had to rebuild my trust with him a couple of times when he was younger and got some poo on him and needed to be bathed, but he seemed to be over it after a day and would sit by me before he "changed". I play with him multiple times a day, every day for 10 or 15 minutes a session. It almost seems like he's paranoid or confused, but I couldn't tell you why. We have a dog, and they LOVE to play together and get along like best buds. I'm home all day, so he isn't lonely or depressed.
I've heard breeder cats may not always be socialized very well, but we did our homework and they were very highly regarded, and he was a great kitten for the first month. Can anyone offer any tips or advice? Thoughts or ideas? Could this just be the "teenage phase"? Four months seemed too early for that, to me. Is he just EXTREMELY independent? I really hope he isn't going to be THIS independent because at this point he's just turning into an expensive mouth to feed and not much more. I really love him, I'm just very confused and frustrated by his change in temperament.
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