|Purred: Thu Aug 4, '11 8:59am PST |
|I apologize that this is so long, but I really wanted to share my Liberty's story. Hopefully you can find hope for your Bebe.
I adopted my Libby from an animal shelter where she had been for over a year (my local shelter will not euthanize, regardless of how long a cat is there). She was 2 years old when the animal shelter took her in. So she is now 3 years old, has been living a year in a shelter full of loving people and cats, and been with me for 4 months. N Although the shelter has never said anything, I am quite sure she was abused before the shelter had her (she is missing a couple randomly placed teeth, which leads me to think she has been kicked for sure).
Libby doesn't ever have violent mood swings, but other than that, seems to be alot like your Bebe. For the first month she wouldn't come near me at all. She spent the first month under my bed, only coming out to pee and eat. But, I have been very patient with her. I never approach her as if going to HER, only walk past her. And like Halllie said above, she has learned the difference between the two. If I am walking TO her, she runs under the bed. If I am walking past her, she will tense, ready to bolt, but as I walk by, she relaxes. Now it has definitely been a practice in patience with her, cuz I really want to pick her up and snuggle her lots (she is a beautiful white fluffy girl). But the patience is really paying off. Its been 4 months, and its all little tiny milestones, but you will see changes. Like, while she won't spend the day in the same room as me, she will sit in the room right next to the one I am in. I spend most of my day at my desk in the office, and she will sleep in the living room right next to the door. And once every day, she will jump on my desk and lay down, waiting for me to pet her. She lasts about 5 minutes, then jumps down. There are even rare mornings, this morning is one, where she will jump on top my bed (she sleeps under it) when she hears I am awake. She will jump up, sit just out of my reach and purr. Then jump off.
I realize this may seem like very little progress. But the time during each day that she comes up to my desk is my absolute favorite moment of the day. And on the rare mornings that she jumps on my bed to say good morning, those are the best ways to wake up!! Just give your Bebe time, and patience, and love and, although it may take time, she will learn to trust that you won't hurt her.
Edited by author Thu Aug 4, '11 9:02am PST
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