|Purred: Tue Oct 20, '09 9:13am PST |
you might want to read some of the threads Charlie and Aura started in this forum (like "Hissing at new kitten and then running away") and the kitten forum about introducing an old cat and a young kitten (they are all rather fresh threads, so you won't have to do much searching, maybe backtrack a page, if even). I think their updates on how they progressed from Charlie's hissing to a peaceful coexistence might be helpful to you.
As for cats loving one another, it takes however long it takes, and you have to let them work it out. If they do play sometimes, or they played at first but now Zoe hides, it's possible that she is picking up on your own anxieties about Cosmo's behavior.
Cosmo will beat up on her for a bit, not to hurt her, but to boss her around. It's just how cats do things, and if you intervene in and interrupt that process, that will only create roadblocks on the way.
Unless Cosmo does nothing but terrorize the kitten, and she runs away from him every single time she meets his gaze, you're probably being an overprotective "mom", and need to check your need to have everything be all nice all at once.
We are not unsympathetic to you, just saying that your anxiety is the one thing you have absolute control of in this situation, and controlling it is a good idea. Just keep repeating to yourself "We won't take Zoe back. Things will work out, we'll find a way to make them work" over and over like a mantra. And relax. If being on constant supervision patrol is stressing you out, put Zoe in her room and go do something outside for a few hours. That helped mom and her anxieties over the possibility that Boris would end up rejecting me (the first week was pretty bad, and since the kitten refused to be quarantined and we exchanged each other's germs, both Boris and I were sick). He didn't, and we're now the best of friends, but it took Boris a while to fully forgive me for taking away some of mom's attention. If mom were to ever do this whole "introducing a kitten" again, the one thing she would work on is trying not to be so darn impatient.
Edited by author Tue Oct 20, '09 9:20am PST
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