|Purred: Fri Feb 17, '12 4:44pm PST |
|I'm seeing red flags with the roommate situation. Your roommate has valid concerns regarding her role in the responsibility for the cat/cats. When a cat is brought into a home, it becomes the responsibility of everyone who lives there. You may be the one to provide the basic needs of the cat and to care for him/them financially, but your roommate will inherently have some responsibility as well.
What if your roommate is home alone with the cat, and the cat has an accident on the floor? Should your roommate be expected to leave it there for you to clean up, or would she clean it up herself? There's a responsibility that she must assume that she doesn't want. What if your roommate makes a cup of tea and your cat jumps onto the hot burner when she's not looking? Should she ignore a potential injury, or rush him to the emergency vet? You might be willing to pay for the vet visit, but how will the cat get there? Same with a sudden-onset illness witnessed by your roommate. Again, responsibilities that she doesn't want and to which she is objecting.
There are also the minor responsibilities of living with a cat, such as keeping dangerous items put away, and cleaning more often. Cat fur, dander, and litter dust don't confine themselves to the primary caretaker of the cat. There is also the potential noise factor if the cat is vocal or especially active.
I agree with Eko that you would be wise to find a pet-friendly roommate before you adopt a cat. Not only is it unfair to the cat to be brought into a home where he is not fully wanted or accepted, but it's unfair to the roommate as well. Not every person wants to live with pets, and that's okay. If your roommate pays her share of the rent, she deserves to be comfortable in her own home. Your desire for a cat is no more important than her desire to live without one.