|Purred: Thu Dec 5, '13 3:12pm PST |
|I haven't been on Catster since my kitties were younger, and I have been busy with college and have had to leave all my pets in the care of my mother, who is wonderful about making sure the basic needs of my pets are met, but... I'm afraid since I've been gone I've noticed a behavior problem developing between my male cat, Bastian, and my female cat, Bubbles.
I got Bubbles and Bastian as kittens, around eight weeks old. They are not siblings, but they have grown up together. Bastian is rowdy, more aggressive with his play, and Bubbles is more reserved, and shy. When they were kittens Bubbles didn't like Bastian when I first brought him home, but I thought 'Oh they are kittens, they'll get used to each other'.
They have gotten used to each other and they can co-exist and were getting along really well until I left for school in August. I come home every break/weekend, and during a weekend visit my mother told me Bastian has been beating up Bubbles and cornering her. Bubbles has scabs on her neck from where Bastian claws and bites her, and she is very skittish around the house now.
He has also been trapping her in high places and not letting her down. He trapped her on the kitchen table, wouldn't let her down, and as a result, Bubbles relieved herself on the kitchen counter, which is definitely a problem. So as a quick fix, I have been playing more with Bastian and keeping him and Bubbles separate. Bubbles lives in my room, with food and water and her own personal litterbox. But the playing doesn't seem to calm Bastian down and he isn't suffering from neglect. My mother plays with him and cuddles him just as I would.
Now, Bastian is an un-neutered male, but I made an appointment with my local lost-cost clinic to get him fixed next Wednesday (I planned to fix him either way). I was wondering if the neutering will resolve this aggression issue? He isn't constantly mean to Bubbles, and they wash each other and seem fine some days, but other times he tries to play too roughly with her and if he gets in trouble for something, he will seek out Bubbles and beat her up.
I am not sure if it is true aggression, or if he just over-zealous with the way he plays. Either way, Bubbles doesn't like it and wants no part of it since she is generally calmer. I was wondering if there were any other ways that can be applied to ease Bastian?
I have already implemented:
Rigorous play sessions for Bastian
Boundaries for Bastian (he has no permission to enter my room and has no permission to use Bubbles' litterbox) I enforce this with a loud "NO" if he tries to do it anyway, and that generally deters him.
He will also be neutered 12/11/13.
I'm not sure what is happening between my cats, and I really want to fix it. I don't want Bubbles to be constantly harassed and miserable. I've already thought about re-homing either Bastian or Bubbles, but honestly I love my kitties very much and I have optimism that I can fix this problem. I am trying, but I was wondering if anyone had any other advice? Also, is it aggression, or aggressive play? He doesn't snarl, hiss, etc. But he will grab ahold of Bubbles and make her cry and scream, and he will chase her and trap her. He also waits for her outside the litterbox and pounce on her, making her not want to potty in the box.
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