Behavior & Training > Older cat is too in love with me?


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Purred: Fri Jun 21, '13 12:20am PST 
So my cat Totchi is 13, old man, but totally healthy save for a thyroid condition that needs monitoring but not treatment. He gets a checkup every month, so I know his health is fine.

My health took a turn for the worse back in January and I was bed ridden for about three months, in that time Totchi was on my bed curled up right next to me pretty much 24/7. I figured it was because he was worried about me, and thought it was super sweet but didnt think much more about it.

Flash forward to now and my health is fine so I don't spend as much time in my bed as I used to, however when I AM in the bed he literally won't leave me alone. He grabs my hand or arm constantly and won't stop tapping me until he gets pet (claws out). He crawls up and on my chest and licks me all over, again, until he gets pet.
This would be all well and good I guess but he keeps doing it after I turn the lights out and try to go to sleep. I literally can not sleep with him in my room anymore because he wants me awake and paying attention to him any time I'm in my bed.
The other problem is I'm a writer so I do a lot of writing on my laptop IN BED,it's always been my habit and he always used to lay at my feet and sleep but now, nope, he comes and lays right on the mouse or on the keyboard and I have to keep pushing him off my arm/the laptop/the mouse because he keeps creeping back over to be AS CLOSE AS POSSIBLE.

As I'm typing this he's laying on my right arm/mouse hand. He's just become SO NEEDY. He's always been a really loving cat and he's always liked when people pet him, but he's become so attached to me that I end up getting really peeved at him because I cant sleep or work but like, I can't BE mad at him for loving me so I just kinda have to work around it and thats not working well at all.

I live with one other person and I just wish he'd go back to spending time with her too instead of just me, but no matter how much I encourage it no sooner I go in my bedroom he's BAM there. Does anyone have any advice on how to I guess, make him less attached to me? We have 5 cats, so it's not a lack of friendship, and he's 13 so he doesn't really play much. All he wants is to be CLOSE and to be pet like 24/7.

The weirdest part is when I go away for a weekend or something he's totally fine with the other person and goes back to normal, but no sooner I get home, he starts it all over again. I mainly care because closing him out at night so I can sleep closes ALL the cats out, and it's not fair to the other guys to punish them because he won't let me sleep, ya know? Ugh, too much love XD

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Behavior & Training > We lost our Senior cat and one cat went nuts! HELP!

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Purred: Sun Oct 14, '12 10:41pm PST 
Alexander- I'm so sorry about your girl! I've lost a couple to cancer and it never gets easier frown In this case though I've seen Raidou attack her and he is hurting her, he's always been an aggressive player but this isn't play, he rips chunks of her fur out with his mouth and always has his claws out and ears back. The big bump on her poor little eye is from him slamming her into the ground with his body weight, at least that's my guess, because he hits her so hard she can't get up and our house is all hardwood and slate so when she goes down it's a really hard surface to hit frown I plan to take her to the vet this week to get her eye looked at anyway (I think it's just a bruise but I'm afraid she may have a cut under her eyelid I cant see) so I'll make sure to get a full check up on her as well though!

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Behavior & Training > We lost our Senior cat and one cat went nuts! HELP!


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Purred: Sun Oct 14, '12 2:49pm PST 
This is a multi-cat household, we had 6, but with the passing of our senior male, Fuzz, we're down to 5. All of them get along great and we've only ever had aggression issues out of Nephi, my female Ragdoll. She's always been a bit cray-cray, it was why she was in the shelter I adopted her from to begin with. She'll be loving and sweet one moment and gnawing on your arm the next. And I mean gnawing hard.
She's gotten better over the years and we pretty much know how to read her expressions to tell when the little switch in her head goes from sweetie to crazy. She only ever antagonized Totchi, my Wegie and even that was never violent or biting hard enough to break the skin, she would just tackle him and um...mount him.
We always assumed it was just her showing her dominance and she only ever did it to Totchi, none of the other cats.

So after we lost Fuzz, about a week later, Raidou, male tuxedo, started beating the living heck out of Nephi. He goes beyond tackling her to chasing her, hitting her, biting her, it's a knock-down cat fight like you hear in the alley at night. Neph has NEVER antagonized him, and he's never antagonized anyone else! He was raised from a kitten around all the other cats and while he's always been prone to aggressive play (the day we brought him home as a kitten he went straight up to my 15 lb boy cat Serph and boxed him on the nose. Those two are now best friends lol)
Anyway he's never been nasty before like, this, and it's just getting worse. Fuzz has been gone about 2 months now and Raidou is just UNBEARABLE. He beats Nephi to the point that when she sees him she hisses and runs away, and pretty much every time he sees her he chases her down till she hides.
Twice now she's had her eyelid scratched to the point she won't open her eye, and today is the third time and I just am at my wits end with Raidou! I don't know what to do to keep him from attacking her or why he's picking on HER and only her when they never had any problems with each other before.

The only time he doesn't attack her is when they're on my bed together, right now as I'm typing this they're each lying on either side of me sleeping just fine. But if either one of the touches the floor, it'll be a brawl again.

Nephi is declawed (not my choice, she came that way) and can't even fight back that well. I'm so tired of seeing my poor girl beat to heck and not be able to do anything about it. I'm also afraid something is wrong with Raidou to cause him to act this way, but I just don't know what!
Like I said all this happened after we lost Fuzz, but Fuzz and Raidou didnt seem especially close so I can't figure out what this could all mean.

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Saying Goodbye: Memorials & Support > Goodbye my Baldy


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Purred: Wed Jun 20, '12 6:43am PST 
I woke up this morning to find our family cat, Bald Spot, had died in her sleep.

Both my mother and I knew this was coming, she was old and recently had lost almost all her weight, stopped eating, and would just sit and stare into nothing. We knew it was coming, but it doesn't make it any easier.

Bald Spot found us when she wandered out of our woods as a very pregnant, very round, all black semi-feral cat and over the years her and her two children managed to become faithful indoor lapcats.

Her daughter, Chibi, died 2 years ago on Christmas, and her son, Fuzz, the last of the dynasty, is probably not going to last much longer himself. This is rough.

Last night I felt a phantom cat brush against my leg and now I know that was probably her daughter coming to get her.

I'm gonna miss my little black jellybean.

Baldy was always a chowhound, so please give your little buddies some extra treats in her memory for me.

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