|Purred: Mon Jun 3, '13 7:01am PST |
|Firstly: Deep breath...
When cats come into new homes, it takes awhile for them to really become themselves, get used to the people around them, and the home. It sounds to me that alot is being expected of a cat, who has her own needs and wants, and simply may not be ready to be what you expect them to be.
When we meet potential 'Forever' pawrents, the first thing we say is 'understand, what you see here, may not happen with you-at least not right away'. All cats need an adjustment time-cats bond to their environments as much as to their people. They don't act the same way with people-some cats behave very differently in different homes.
I am going to probably sound slightly hard here, but I'm going to say this: this kitty might well be one that needs the comfort and social atmosphere of other animals-and she sounds as though she's very, very bored. A cat isn't a stuffed toy, to be expected to sit on your lap all day! There are cats that will, but again, lap sitting may be something that happens with time and trust. There are things you can do to work on the relationship-and yep, it's a relationship like any other!
1) Spend time playing with your cat! Get a wand toy, get a toy with feathers on the end and spend time playing!!!
2) Catnip toys are good! Don't take them away! Cats need stimulation and need to keep from getting bored!In a home with other animals she had alot of stimulation and here she sounds as though she doesn't, that she's expected to sleep on the bed with you and thats about it....she needs lots and lots of interaction, but in a way that will make her feel a part of your life. Play with her-toss them for her, let her know you want to interact!
3) A good, sturdy cat tree near a window. Again....this is about her needs...and she needs to be a cat...looking out a window is something all my cats love to do! It's usually a big part of their morning routine, watching birds, watching squirrels, watching other things outside.
Affection, lap sititng, seeking you out...it's a part of building trust. She sounds bored and stressed, and again, cats pick up on your mood, your anxiety and your tension. It sounds like you're expecting quite a bit from her, and she hasn't found her feet yet. She may well be missing her foster family and what she knew at their home. I don't know how long you've had her, but again, all relationships take time to build.
If you don't feel that you're the right now, talk with the rescue and the foster mom if you can. They may be able to give you some guidance.
All the best,
Mom to Ruffy, Natalie, Smokieboo, Princess, CK Angel Ryder, Midnight, Calvin and Paws
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