|Purred: Mon Apr 2, '12 5:25pm PST |
|We don't have little children here, at least not our own. But we have a grand daughter who was a wild 2 year old when she visited. And my friends 6 year old boy was here not so long ago. All my cats were wonderful with him, including my 'formerlly feral' ones.
When we first got Smokieboo, he had been neglected and abused, and we believe, sadly, by a child. Yet, a year and some months later, we have a wonderful, regal and gentle cat who greets our visitors with soft purrs and eye contact to be petted. He was very good with our grand, too...so much so it bought me to tears. Cats, when they know they are loved, and safe, are amazing at forgiving and adjusting.
I think you need to take a deep breath and give it time. Let the cat come to you' is a good rule of thumb. I also believe in letting the cat learn about the children in a quiet, unthreatening way. Children often make lots of noise-they get excited and want to bring the cat out to 'play' with, and socialize with. For a cat who's had a radical change, this might be scaring him.
Let your children know that your new cat is scared and will take some time to get to know them. Talk with them about how he can be their friend and how they can learn to speak cat. Holding out their fingers to him, letting him sniff, and giving him tiem to get to know their smells is very important.
I don't know how long you've had him...
all things take time....
and if you do return him to the shelter, would he be in danger of being put down?
that I couldn't live with.
We wish you easier times...
Ruffy and family
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