|Purred: Sat May 15, '10 11:37am PST |
|and now is another time when i apparently have managed to stick my autistic foot in my mouth...i NEVER really thought nellie was being rude to those people, and certainly not that she was causing their rudeness. that whole first post was an attempt to write in the voice of someone who thought their way was always right-i think i channeled my mother-while trying to give logical advice. and so we see the triumph of tone over content, because while i never once said that i didn't believe her or that i thought she was being rude or was to blame, somehow that is the conclusion that was reached.
rereading it while not in the rather odd (post-undetermined-neurological event) state of mind i was in, i can only say i wouldn't want to be locked in the room with myself in that state of mind-mostly because i vividly remember being puzzled that the OP found my first post troublesome and that i then went on to write the second one thinking that this one would make her laugh and she'd just love me and all would be kisses and dancing emoticons.
but i can categorically state that at no time did i think or try to transmit the thought that i doubted the OP or that i thought the sitution was her fault. now, gracie's point that her own attitude is the only way to address this is right on the money. now, as to what i did think...yeah, i did some smiling and shaking of the head at the original post-but only because the poster is committing such a very universal logic error and is either frank enough or still young enough not to have stopped being obvious about it.
and before anyone gets snippy, the "logic error" is simply failure to be objective-which is why i called it very universal. i was amused by the sheerly subjective characterization of the boyfriend's parents, delighted in my cynic's heart by the lack of hypocrisy in the omission of any of their good qualities or any hint that their point of view might be relevant. "Of course I didn't listen to them."
i tip my hat.
of course, i then imagined how such forthrightness would be perceived by people who felt the need to be that pushy in the first place...and started fantasizing about irresistable forces meeting an immovable object-with the boyfriend as the soft gooey center. and got the impression of a train wreck in progress that had little to do with cats, lots to do with a need to control others...and my brain took that information and reported back from an alternate dimension on what it thought. and since my brain was missing, i posted the report.
that's a fanciful way of explaining that i wasn't really running on all cylinders-can provide details if anyone cares. also, well, i am autistic. sometimes my humor misses not just the boat but the ocean. i hope everyone now gets that whatever the impression received, my intent was to give advice on dealing with controlling pushy people-which can be even harder for people who are assertive, because they tend to add energy to the conflict without intending to. hoping all are well...and izzie, i couldn't stay mad at you. (i'm surprised the p***ed survived...i hadn't even noticed until you said something.) i'm showing the new baby cat pictures of you, so he'll have a role model...kaya and jadyn are GIRRRLLS. you're a manly maine coon who had the same "operation" Jim did, so i thought that would work.
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