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Convincing the parents
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Purred: Mon May 5, '08 1:08pm PST
Hello, Im Clarissa and I'm 14 years old. One of my Aunts cats recently had kittens, and she wants me to take one home. (well, once they're old enough) But Mom doesn't like the idea, and my dad is allergic to cats. but there MUST be a way! What can I do to convince them? Please help.
Sorry if this is in the wrong section, I wasn't sure were to put it.
Well the biggest problem is your fathers allergy. Anyway, you must convince your parents that you are responsible and that you will take care of the cat, play with her, clean after her ( litter box, shading, scratching etc) take her to the vet etc. And you must remember that cats are not just toys while they are little, u must be prepared for spaying/neutering when its older. They can get sick, and then you must take care of them...never forget her needs ( proper food, place to sleep, playing, petting etc.) But as you already know ( i guess ) in return you get a wonderful, soft friend that will keep you happy and put the smile on your face with its purring. Good luck
I understand the respobilities of haveing a cat. Dad actually likes cats even though he's allergic to them. I'd say mom is the biggest problem. she's afraid of them. (and every other non-humon creature on the earth it seems ) Mom knows I'm responcible, and I know my little brother will help out a lot whenever he can. She just has excuses for everything, including "the smelly litter box" "the hair" (this one is dumb becouse the kitten is a short hair) "smelly canned food" "scratched funichure" " messy hairballs" ... I could go on all day with her excuses! The thing is, all of them can easily be prevented! It's drives me nuts sometimes! I'm just don't know what else I can do from here...
Guest, mom says she's been there. Her mom would come up with the same excuses, the only difference being that mom's dad does not like cats. Mom just had to put up with it, because she was under their roofs, and so their word went. You might not be able to convince mom just yet.
In fact my mom is more than twice your age, and had to bring her cat over for an extended visit with her parents (long story), and she is still having problems because they're just not used to a furry one being around, and don't like having to make adjustments for it, however temporary.
I'm sorry, sweetie, but there might not be anything you can do at this time. If your mom has her mind made up - and genuinely is very scared of animals - it might not be the best thing to bring in a kitten right now (especially with your dad's allergies).
Maybe you could start with a smaller animal, which would allow you to show your mom how responsible you are, but also let her get used to having a non-human creature in the house.
Sometimes, moms have to build up to saying "yes". Especially to adding an animal to the family, who could potentially be with you for 20-or-so years.
Of course, I (Binks' mom) can't imagine living without a kitty. But,believe it or not, my own mom isn't a cat person. I had a kitty when I was little because of my dad. But my mom was never very happy about it.
My advice, as a cat lover AND a mom, is to start slow, don't beg, do some research, present the facts to your mom, along with a plan on how you will take care of the kitty, and don't try to get your dad to convince your mom (that always backfires). Like I mentioned, maybe these kittens aren't the ones for you. Maybe you could tell your mom that you know she is hesitant to adopt a pet, so you'd like to start with a smaller pet to show her you can do it, but that if it works out, you'd like for her to reconsider the cat issue. I think she'll be very proud of how responsible you are and how much thought you put into it.
Sometimes Clarissa, you just have to wait... I know it seems hard, but if your Mom really does not want a cat you may have to wait. When I was young my Dad always said wait until you grow up and have your own home, then you can have as many pets as you want. Well I've found that is not exactly true, but as an adult you'll have a lot more options. Muffin came into my life shortly after I got married and I had her for over 18 years! Right now we have 4 sweet and wonderful cats. My husband never really liked cats until we got Muffin. Now he's a confirmed cat lover!
Since you mention your Mom does not like cats, perhaps she has never had the chance to really visit with one and get to know it, or maybe she had a bad experience when she was a child? Maybe you could somehow help her to get to know a cat , then she'd let you adopt.
If you can't convince your mom to adopt a kitten, perhaps you could use the love of cats and caring you have to volunteer at a shelter ? You'd learn a lot about cats and I'm sure the cats would benefit from the love you have to give. And maybe your mom would see how responsible you are and how commited to animals and give you a chance.
Good luck to you in your quest for a cat. Even if you have to wait a few more years, I'm sure eventually you will get to share your life with a wonderful feline companion
My roommate used to be really scared of cats and dogs; basically small animals in general. Her family adopted a dog to try to help her with her fears and that worked. And when she wanted to live with me, I told her I have cats and if that is a problem, we can't live together. She told me that was fine and never mentioned her bizarre fear of animals until the day I brought mine over. Apparently, she was even hiding in her room afraid to come out. But my cats were kittens at the time and my roommate, Roma, finally decided to come out and give them a chance. And now her fear is gone. I only have one cat living with me right now, the others are with my parents (my parents are always finding reasons to take my cats because they love cats so much lol), but Roma loves the cat that lives with us, Batty. She picks him up all the time and plays with him. So while it might depend on the person, I think the best thing for your mom would be to get the kitten so she could get used to it and overcome her fear. But if she really isn't ready for that then...bummer. But I hope it works out for you in the end!
Well, my girl just went through the same thing as you. She and I had a special bond from the moment I was born and she stopped at nothing to get me. Actually our cases are almost identical.
She has to pay to get me neutered, declawed infront (even though she doesn't want to0) (and she is really happy she started saving her money before I was born), and any frontline (for flea season) and vetrinay needs (like shots). Her mom used alot of excuses, but somehow she prevailed. (lots of because like I said we have a specail bond and she couldn't stand to see me go) Introdue your mom to the kittens, force her to play with them. Maybe she will get a specail bond too?
My girl's mom felt a special bond with a cat and regretted not getting him (even though the cat she got instead loves her more then she will ever know). If you think she starting to like a certian kitten more than the others persuade for that one.
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) Mom knows I'm responcible, and I know my little brother will help out a lot whenever he can. She just has excuses for everything, including "the smelly litter box" "the hair" (this one is dumb becouse the kitten is a short hair) "smelly canned food" "scratched funichure" " messy hairballs" ... I could go on all day with her excuses! The thing is, all of them can easily be prevented! 
It's drives me nuts sometimes! I'm just don't know what else I can do from here...
