|Purred: Sun Apr 27, '08 3:16am PST |
|First of all, please accept my condolences for your loss. It's normal to feel grief at the loss of a beloved pet/family member--don't try to deny your loss, just follow it where it takes you.
Some people can never get another pet when one has died, others go out the next day and come back with a new furbaby. I'm the latter kind--life is short, and cats are all unique and special, and I am happy to have the opportunity to get to know and love another cat, even though I know I will never forget the cats I have lost. It sounds as if you are headed in the direction of getting another cat, but do it at your own pace.
As for the cat relationship issues. Other Catsters probably know more about this than I do, but I think that Georgie started acting mean to Chip when he was dying because she sensed he was dying, and was instinctively afraid of it (leaving aside the issue of whether cats can understand abstract things like the meaning of "death" or not). When my Kitty died before Botchan, I brought him into the room where she was lying in a coma, and he took one look and ran away. These cats were littermates and very, very close. But even so, Botchan didn't want to have anything to do with his dying sister.
As for getting another cat, or rather, what kind of cat you should get if you decide to get another one, I think it's a good sign that Georgie got along with Chip--she's a sociable girl. I would guess that it's likely she'd get along with a new cat (eventually!) as well. As for sex/age, the rule of thumb says younger cat/opposite sex, but most people have found that this is not necessarily true. However, a kitten who is not set in its ways will probably adapt to Georgie better than an adult (especially because she want to be an alpha cat), and I've found that my adult cats take to kittens more readily because, well, kittens are so darned CUTE, and have yet to have developed any issues regarding territory, power, etc. Georgie will probably be feeling lonely now that Chip is gone (cats grieve, too), and a kitten will be a good distraction. Even if you don't choose a kitten, another cat is probably a good idea, because a cat who's used to living with another cat can get lonely suddenly being a single cat. As for the sex, in my experience, neutered males tend to be pretty laid back, whereas girls, even if spayed, can have issues with each other (and I'm a girl myself, so this was NOT meant as a sexist comment!).
But if you plan to adopt from a shelter, etc., do make sure to explain your situation to the people at the shelter. They should know which kitten/cat is most likely to get along well as a new member of your family.
I think it's wonderful that you think that saving another cat's life will be a comfort after losing Chip. Just don't rush things--give yourself and Georgie a chance to grieve until you feel ready to move on. Purrs, head bonks, and hugs.
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