|Purred: Sun Oct 9, '05 7:22am PST |
|Marina's mom here: Hi emma, I'm sorry you're having these problems but I understand what your mommy is going through. Tell her this for me: 1) maybe the introduction was done too quickly and you need to start over from scratch and do it a lot slower. 2) I listen to a radio show on Public Radio on Sundays called "Calling All Pets." They have a website so you can see if it is in your area. Or you can listen to it on the internet. The animal behaviorist gets this problem all the time. If there was only one piece of advice I would give from that show it is this:
It can take up to SIX MONTHS for cats to adjust to each other.
Now read that again, and again, and again. Good. Now whenever you are having trouble, just think of it again.
Marina's sister Velvet was my first pet ever. I've had her my whole adult life and she was a calm adult when I got her. When I got Marina, she was a wild, playful baby. And Tonks are worse than the average kitten. I was caught totally off guard and I was freaking out too. To add insult to injury, Marina developed ringworm just a few days after I got her (which means it didn't come from my house). And she passed it on to Velvet.
If it wasn't for the "six months" piece of advice, I probably would have gotten rid of Marina but I am SO GLAD that I didn't. I love her so much. For us it took six months to get rid of the ringworm and seven months before we all adjusted. And that was ok because with twice a week baths for both cats and topical meds and vacuuming all the time (which they both hate), it was a very stressful time for them. I'm surprised it only took that long. Marina is still a jealous baby and if Velvet is getting attention from me, she usually has to get in there and sit closer to me or play with the toy or eat more food or whatever because she is the spoiled princess. But she really is a great cat.
Be patient and if you ever just need a sounding board or whatever, feel free to message me and I'll write back asap.
Let us know how it goes.
Angie (Marina's mommy)
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