Kitty's Mews

getting discouraged

November 16th 2011 12:45 pm
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*sigh* I is doing that fur Mommy 'cause that's how she feels right now. And she is keeping up the works and being pawsitives, but right now she is feeling a bit down in the litterbox. Maybe it's other stuffs, so it makes our kitty stuff seem worse than it is, but she's getting discouraged about pawrogress.

It's like, we is doing evfurrything, but I still get awwwwl upset when I has to go into the bedroom and I pretty much just park my kiester on tha cattree, and Harrison wants ta play, but now aftur a full week a'playing, he's not so interested anymore, specially 'cause he realized that he gets yum yums aftur. So he just wants tha yum yums.

Ya know-and Mommy is so emoshiunals like my furrriends pawrents too when something isn't good with their furrrrs too-and when I am just hanging on the cat tree and stuffs, sometimes I think, she thinks I am awwwl sad 'cause I don't wanna cuddle or something, so she feels bad, like I is not getting my needs met and stuffs. Plus, she feels bad that I is alone awl day, then sleeps alone in the living room at night-and isn't that crazy fur a mom ta worry about such a small thing like that?

So I guess she's just feeling sorries fur herselfs, and I can understands that 'cause I feel sorries fur myselfs when I go to the refrigerator and meow fur turkey pieces (sorry tabbies!!!) and I don't gets none!

We has a talk with the doooood again on Monday and then scheduled tha visit fur the end of December, but I just don't know if I is gonna be ready to meet Harrison face ta face again, let alone be ready anytime soon. I do like to peek at the door to his room and stuffs, but when Mommy lets me out of the bedroom, I run sooo fast ta get outta there, it's like I gots fire in my pants!

On a happy thing, my good good furrrriends Leo, Lucy and Charrrrrlie are Cheezburgers MOL! It's sooooo pawsome! And I is thinking about my furrriend Natasha too, who had a vet doc doc appt. I hope you are doing ok sweet furrriend.

Love,
Kitty

 
Purred by: Tink the Cat (Catster Member)

November 16th 2011 at 1:07 pm

There's always a hard part involved in change. It's SO hard to move through it, but this is what you have to do. Keep moving, one foot at a time if necessary, no matter who is in what mood. Let them have a period of maladjustment, whining, and let yourself dislike it, but just keep moving. It may be a chore at this time, but you love them so much you have to try it. That's why you started this.
You love them so much you'd try anything, remember?
If Harrison doesn't play, maybe you shouldn't give him the yum yums. But I'm not your behaviorist, and I trust him, I even recommended him in your diary way back!
You're doing everything you can, and we admire you for that! Don't let it get you down, keep going, YOU CAN DO IT!! Luv, Tink & Snow
Purred by: Ingen (Catster Member)

November 16th 2011 at 1:32 pm

Hi KP & mommy,

Jus' be's patient an keeps workin on it. You know I dis'peared an skeered efurone. Well, when I seed Jen, I ac' like I don' efun knows her--fur LONG TIME! I don' lets her toush me er nuffin. I jus' hides & hides. Now, I's gettin back to my o'd self. I plays, an talks an snuggle an wakes Jen up. I efun playin & snugglin wif Novi a lil bit. BTW-I still don' likes lil Bear too mush. I 'voids him, but is okay.
Purred by: Laura W

November 16th 2011 at 2:23 pm

KP...

pleez knot ta give up N tell yur mom her prob abully haz de stoooooooooooopid burd day bluez....

who doezn't ...

bee like WAY diffrunt if we bee celebratin with trout ore pork chops ore sghetti...

but OH NOE.....itz gotta bee stooooooopid burd; burd with stuffs up it butts stooooooooooopid burd.....

anymew, ewe all haz made it this far...knot to gives up now....ya alwayz got a hurdle ore two to climb over bee for ya can continmew...N tell yur mom knot ta bee so hard on her self ...OK !!

hugs N love frum all oh trout
Purred by: Kitty Pryde (Catster Member)

November 16th 2011 at 2:50 pm

thanks furrrriends-we knwo what you says is the right things-I know Mommy is 'fraid that what if it awl goes awfuls and then Harrison is so in loves with her already, and it makes her so sad!!! But she won't shows it ta us 'cause the dooooood said that is a bad thing ta do, since we knows and picks up tha feelin. The doooood said Harrison shouldn't get yum yums but even if he plays fur a few good minutes he can-'cause it's like retraining and stuffs. I eats only on my cat tree when I am stuck in the the bedroom!!! But Mommy sits with me when I eats it-I liked getting tha treats with tha clicker, but now it's borrrrrring! I do likes my new shelf though MOL!
It's like, how many more months ya knows! I get so lonely sleeping by myselfs! and now I know that when Mommy wakes up and gets home I gotta go in that room 'cause I learned tha routine! I'm just smarter than her I guess!
Purred by: Elsa - Dream Girl #31 (Catster Member)

November 16th 2011 at 3:26 pm

Dear Kitty Pryde we don't want you to be discouraged. You can try more scent swapping (take a towel and rub it on one cat, then take that same towel and rub it on the other cat; then do the same with a new towel in reverse order of the cats) so each cat has the other scent on it. It seems lonely to separate both kitties, but this professional might be right, maybe.

Or try calling another professional, FREE, but call EARLY, as soon as the show begins, to Warren Eckstein's Radio show on SATURDAYS.

He has a California radio show at 11 am if you are in Calif. and then another radio show at 4 PM (1 PM if you are in Calif.)for the rest of the USA.

Each show has a different toll free number (see phone numbers below); call both shows early. If he gets to your call he will help you feel less discouraged.

http://www.warreneckstein.com/

USA & Canada Show,
SATURDAYS 4-6 PM EST (1 PM Calif. time),
Call in: 800-321-8828.
Distributed By: WOR 710am RADIO station.

Southern California Show,
SATURDAYS 11 AM -1 PM PST,
Call in: 866-870-5752,
Distributed By: KRLA 870am Radio station.

About Warren:
http://www.warreneckstein.com/pg/jsp/gene ral/bio.jsp

I'm only guessing but I think he would say don't separate the kitties and he'd say provide lots of play things for Harrison to distract him from you, such as new empty box every few days, large paper bags, organic grown catnip - things like that to keep him interested in other things. I'm sure that as he grows up, he will slow down.

It's always good to get another professional's opinion! I hope to hear you call in; your question will be familiar to us!

In our house my Dad has always let us new kitties join right in with the old ones (like 'let them fight it out for themselves'. Outdoor cats get along, why can't indoor ones?). We were only separated from the rest of the cats during our first 10 days, when we were the new kitty, alone in a room to get used to things

When we came out of the room, and joined the rest of the family we didn't fight, but kitties have a way of 'playing' that looks like it hurts when likely it doesn't.

Tabatha and Serena avoided me for 1 1/2 years by staying only in the basement, but they still roamed throughout the house now & then. These days I am tolerated by Tabatha but she growls, but she goes all over the house like she wants to, like she used to before I came.

But no one is lonely in a room to themselves. Cats know how to 'read' other cats and know how to act around them.

But call Warren; I'd love to hear what he says to you!

Love Elsa, xo
Purred by: Lucy Nooner (Catster Member)

November 16th 2011 at 3:48 pm

Hang in there, Kitty P.! I know December doesn't seem very far off, but there is lots of good work that can be done before then. Also wanted to let you know that I am less cuddly with my mommy now that the boys are here and I'm okay with it. She misses my cuddles, but I'm fine :)
Purred by: Kitty Pryde (Catster Member)

November 16th 2011 at 4:36 pm

Thanks fur the infurmation Elsa-we looked up his site befur-it's always inturrresting, the different advices-and this dooood said that too-cause we had lots of boxes all ovfur and he took 'em away-but that was based on my body language looking all fearful-and he said each purrrson has different ideas but we thought his was good 'cause he akshully was there ta sees it! But we will check it out!
Lucy! so-maybe it is just the mommies who are sad when we don't cuddle!? "cause mommy has even slept on the magic couchie with me too and I don't sleeps with her there, but sometimes I do fur a little bit. She got a new soft blankie fur me to rest on when I sleeps on the couchie during the day.

 

Kitty Pryde


 

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