MIA this weekend..death in family

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February 5th 2012 7:50 am
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Mom got notified at work Friday after lunch, that her aunt had died while napping Friday morning. She hadn't been feeling good but she was always scared of Doc.s Thus she had no medical history or PCP. We really don't know why she died yet but they are doing a basic autopsy. She was 66. Once we get auntie back from Chapel Hill then we can set the funeral date.

Mom said she actually one of the lucky ones because she went peacefully in her sleep. She was supposed to go somewhere that afternoon and not feeling good, decided to take a nap before they went. My first cousin found her. I feel for her and my other first cousins wife for they were the ones that was there at the beginning and called 911.

When Mom found out, they decided to let her break it to her Dad. So she called Grandpa broke the bad news and went and picked him up at work. Mom didn't want grandpa driving himself because of the shock factor. Ever sense Mom has been spending time out in the country with the family. Mom said it has been nice spending time with her cousins, she said they seem to be doing fine but our family are known for grieving privately. I thank everybody really is still in shock cause there was zero signs other than her complaining about feeling bad and short of breath lately.

So, if we are MIA for a while please forgive us. Mom told the family if she can help find important papers (because her aunt wasn't the most organized person) and give the house a good cleaning and help go through family pictures for her memorial then she would be there.

Today, Mom told them she would try to stay home, do some cleaning and shopping for the house. She also figures Brent, our human brother, would be coming over for the football game so she needs to go get some snacks and order a pizza for later.

You know it is funny how everybody grieves differently. The people that was at the house that isn't family was just a balling where all the family members stood around in silence with moist eyes. It's never been so obvious to Mom till this weekend. And my poor Mom, having died on the operating table she is not doing well at all either. She explains that something changes in you and the empathy factor goes way up, just uncontrollable sobbing when she thanks about anybodies death. Grandpa told Mom that her grandpa after he died and they brought him back that it changed him drastically. That he never wanted to go to funerals afterwards, that his personality changed drastically and never wanted to go anywhere alone anymore out of fear. If I have a therapist friend on here or someone who has experienced this can you tell me if there is help for people who have died and came back....Mom's mom is so fragile now. Plus she knows her cancer could very easily come back and I thank that messes with her too. She's not even seen the family but that first day and that was a very short visit. Mom is already on a daily mild dose of Prozac. Even though she bet the cancer she still thanks she's going to die. I wish I could help her.

Zach will still be keeping his Superbowl date with Monida tonight so Mom will be around if she can help it. She says it would be a good distraction. Mom also said she wants to make another treasury list today on Etsy...that's always enjoyable to her. You can find us under Zakori on there.

Love all our friends and thank you for reading this. Sorry about the rambling.

Purred by: ♥Harley-Dreamette 2 (Catster Member)

February 5th 2012 at 10:41 am

Oh, Zoe and family, we are so sorry to hear about your Aunt's passing.... your mom is so sweet, caring and thoughtful....you cats are so lucky...... you are in our thoughts and prayers. When my mom was a child like about 6 years old she was hit by a truck , her brother who was 5 at the time saw it happen, and the EMS couldn't find a pulse......not sure if that counts as being dead and coming back but she has always had this incredible "hope" and knowing of things......odd considering that by the time she was 16 she had already suffered 3 major concusssions as well. so much for my rambling..... you can pawmail if you like

hugs and kisses
Harley & Mom

Purred by: Simone (Catster Member)

February 5th 2012 at 1:11 pm

Do not worry about being gone for awhile Zoe, that is far more important to take care of the family. We love you all and we're purring for your mommy and daddy and all your peoples.

Purred by: Callie (Catster Member)

February 5th 2012 at 4:37 pm

Our sympathies to your family.

Purred by: ❀ Jezebel DG 29 ❀ (Catster Member)

February 5th 2012 at 10:26 pm

My sympathy and purrs to your family.

Purred by: Calie Dreamette #17 (Catster Member)

February 5th 2012 at 10:37 pm

Just thinking of you and your family durring this difficult time., purr and hugs

Purred by: Luke (Catster Member)

February 6th 2012 at 6:01 am

We're thinking of you and your family and sending our heartfelt condolences.

Purred by: Samhain (Catster Member)

February 6th 2012 at 6:49 am

You have our condolences; 66 is so young to be carried off like that. Feel free to p-mail if you need to talk.

Purred by: Samhain (Catster Member)

February 6th 2012 at 6:51 am

You have our condolences. 66 is so young; it must have been quite a shock for everyone. Feel free to p-mail if you need to talk.

Purred by: Laura W

February 6th 2012 at 8:26 am

sending hugs two yur mom zoe and her whole familee and sympathy two all; ramble if ewe want...writing is like chickn soup for de soul .....

Purred by: Zoe Snow Flake DG#2 (Catster Member)

February 6th 2012 at 5:22 pm

Guys, Mom is so busy and probably will be for awhile. We got some more bad news this morning. Grandpas favorite uncle, the last of all his aunts and uncles passed away late Saturday night at Hospice.

Mom- Please keep purring for us. We were expecting Uncle Pete to die but we never expected to have one funeral one day and another the next. Dad is talking this in stride. You can tell he is hurting but like I said our family always grieves in private. As for my Mom, she said she'll probably be a basket case by the time it's all over. My parents are Pete's kids ages, so as teenagers and early 20's they all ran together and all became very, very close.

I wrote Calie's Mom earlier and told her I've kept myself so busy trying to take care of the family that it just hasn't settled in yet. We went out to the graveyard today to put some new flowers out and clean the tombstones and it was very sobering cause they had already dug the grave for my aunt. I watched my Dad just stand there looking in an empty hole, very sad.

Oh and I forgot to tell you this, extra purrs for my cousin Craigs family, not only did he loss his Mom, and great uncle but they had to put their beloved Kalie (a beautiful 10 year old lab) down last Monday. That poor family is going through the ringer right now.

Like I keep saying all I can do is be there for everybody.

Thank you everybody for the condolences and Tabbies you are so right Chicken Soup for the soul.

Purred by: Gumpy Sweet Boy (Catster Member)

February 6th 2012 at 5:36 pm

We are sending purrs to your family. We'll see you whenever you want to come back and when it feels right. So sorry to hear about your losses. Sympathies and purrs.....

Love,
Gump and family

Purred by: Skittles Dreamette #10 (Catster Member)

February 6th 2012 at 7:53 pm

Oh my, we are so sorry for your losses. We will keep your whole family in our purrs and prayers. Your Mom is right, she is busy taking care of others and things may not have fully hit her yet. Sometimes all those feelings won't surface till later, but please know, we are here for you guys whenever you need us. Hugs, Skittles

Purred by: Eva V

February 6th 2012 at 10:43 pm

I am really sorry sweetie. Sending purrs to your family.
Love you guys,
TB and family

Purred by: Blizzard AKA The Catfather (Catster Member)

February 7th 2012 at 2:16 am

Many purrs for you and yours. You are in our thoughts

Purred by: Linus Lacey's Baboo DB56 (Catster Member)

February 8th 2012 at 7:31 pm

Purrring for you all and your family. Cannot even imagine the grief and pain you are going through. You have so much going on that you need to get through and some pretty tough days ahead. Wez in there for you!