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Mr Big

March 11th 2013 2:14 pm
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Hello Kitties,

My mommy is really having a tough time recently with something you will all understand. You've heard me talk about my outside friends before, we've got a few of them. Last week, she had a run in with one of them that has left her feeling very depressed.

Two weeks ago, mommy realized very late at night that she had forgotten to put out nom noms for our strays that day. You see, because Bell and Chester (our neighbors kitties) like to hang out on our landing she doesn't put out the food until they have gone home. She and their mommy don't want them to become chunky monkeys either! Anyways, she went outside with a cup of food and looked down at the bushes across from our landing, and she saw Mr Big.

He was just sitting there, hiding in the bushes, waiting for mommy. He looked so scared, so hungry, so lonely. She felt awful. She knows how scared he is. She and daddy accidentally surprised him the other day and he absolutely freaked out and tore around the steps of our apartment trying to run away from them, they backed down the steps slowly, but he was so scared. Seeing him the other day, really tugged at her heart strings. She just watched him after she put down the food. Then she came inside and me and her sat at the window and watched him creep up and eat. He looked at us before he left, he's much bigger now, he looks healthier. Mommy is worried if we move out, he'll be in trouble again. She's not sure what to do with him. He's here every day kitties, every day he shows up for his nom noms, but this is the first time mommy's seen him waiting for the food like that. It made her very sad. He's such a beautiful kitty. Maybe he's getting bolder, maybe he's just hungrier.

It just made her sad to watch him, so she's writing about it here. There isn't much she can do other than feed him, but you know how the mommies are, the mommies who love us so much, the mommies (and daddies) who love all the kitties. I'm going to go give her some head bonks now, and then I'll help her do the laundry. If one thing will make her feel better and forget being sad, it's having to fish me out of the laundry basket of warm clean clothes again... and again... and again!

(Annette Easdon)

* Dedicated by the author to all the kind and caring people who give the lonely ferals a little care, a little love, and a little hope.

I sit beneath the bushes as she fills my dish each day,
I only venture out to eat when she has gone away,
I know it will upset her when I turn away and hide,
As every day she tries her best to get me by her side.
I wish that I could let her know that I don't want to run,
And hope that she will understand it's nothing that SHE's done.
I'd like to have her stroke me and pat my weary head,
But fear will overcome and I'll run and hide instead.
For all the kindly people who feed the strays each day,
I pray the Lord will care for them as they have cared for me.


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Purred by: Novi--DIT #49 (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 2:23 pm

OH RIVER, is so sad. We gots ou'side kitties too & we gonna moof soon. What gonna happen to the ou'side kitties? Mama tryin' ta fin' a "feral rescue" but....we doesn' knows if they's feral kitties er jus' dump kitties.

Hopefurly some of our furriends can he'ps us.
Purred by: River (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 2:31 pm

That's the hard part isn't it Novi? You don't know if they are feral or dumped, Mr Big doesn't have a home. We know that, but what if he's not feral either? She's thought about trying to catch him, he's too afraid for her to just pick him up, she's met kitties like that before, but not Mr Big, he's too scared. She's thinking of using a trap to catch him and get him fully vetted, then see what happens, if he warms up to people or if he's truly feral. It's hards though, very hard.
Purred by: KIBBLES (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 2:51 pm

Hopefully you can catch him.
We had our Fozzy Bear since he was a kitty. He was PJ 1st litter. We finally got them in the house...we had PJ ...Tigger....and Fozzy Bear. We lost Tigger to FIP before she was a year old. But our Fozzy Bear has been with us now for 4years and he is still very shy, we have always loved him just like the others....but he is not one to be picked up...or loved on much but we keeps trying. Every day when we feed him we try to pet him and always tell him how much he is loved...but he says one petty is enough cause it's scarey. So we know what MR Big is feeling like. We sure hopes you can gets him and let him know he's safe. Just keep trying. That's all you can do. Good LUck!
Purred by: ♥Simon♥ (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 3:38 pm

Poor Mr Big! We know how mommies are. Not sure if your complex would allow but maybe you can place a carrier in a bushy area and tie the front open. Place his food in there every night and leave. Maybe put a few toys in there and spray the inside with feliway. Cover it with a towel if you can. When ready to trap if you do replace with a trap covered with a towel. Poor guy just needs a chance. Thank you for caring for him!
Purred by: Keisha ~DG4~ (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 4:59 pm

Oh River, your Mommy is so kind to be looking out for the ferals 'n this one in particular, almost made Mom cry. It's so hard to watch them 'n think of them hungry 'n scared out there 'n you just want so bad to make them safe 'n happy.
Hugs 'n hope it'll turn out ok,
Purred by: Zachery Tristan (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 5:21 pm

Sorry your Mommy is worried about Mr. Big. Actually sounds like our Mom and something she would worry about.

I hope with all my heart she can find a way to do Mr. Big right. Getting him to the vet is a great start.
Purred by: Rose - beautiful angel (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 5:44 pm

Purrs and hugs to your Mom for taking care of the ferals in the area. We hope that Mr. Big starts to trust your Mom and Dad again in time.
Purred by: Monida (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 6:17 pm

Purrs to the kitty and your mom, River. Mom worries about the same thing with our outside kitties. They often show up right when she puts food down, so they must be waiting. But she put food out last night, and it's still there so she's worried about what happened to them.

*sigh* I wish every kitty had a home.
Purred by: River (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 7:47 pm

Mommy is trying to make sure that we'll have the space to let Mr Big recover if we catch and vet him. Hopefully they'll be nothing seriously wrong with him, but she'll definitely want him to be neutered if possible, and he should be inside to recover from that and safe. What's more, if he is capable of being an inside cat, she wants to make sure she can do that too, if not, she's also looking for somewhere that can maybe take him in to live in a feral colony but safe for the rest of his life. Mommy and Daddy have decided they'd be more than willing to cover his maintenance fees for the rest of his life if they could find somewhere for him to live where he wouldn't be out here, here isn't safe for him.
Purred by: Calísta (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 8:58 pm

It's hard for me to imagine Mr Big's life out there. It must be scary. ...You can tell a lot about the heart of a person by the concern they show for animals. We're thankful you want to help the poor guy.
Purred by: Skylar db#39A (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 8:59 pm

You have such a good Mommy. Daisy is still very shy with us, but she gets along well with all our furry family. Being an inside cat is a possibility but maybe a feral colony would work too.
Purred by: Minuette (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 9:22 pm

I'm so sorry that your Momma is sad trying to help Mr.Big, River. In her old house our Mom pretty much took in any stray that came along that could get along with her cats, but that was in the country, so they weren't too scared. I hope your Mom can help this kitty, and we'll send purrs that he'll be okay.
Purred by: WeBeesSiameezers (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 9:53 pm

Oh, that tugs at the heart fur sure. We do so hope this Mr Big will get a home with a big heart just fur him.

We hardly evfur see stray kitties here...but we do see quite a few that live around here, and they are allowed to wander about...not a good idea at all.

Our one set of neighbors seems to get meowmy stressed out the most, they let their dogs run loose, and their goat, too, and even a cat they were car sitting fur a why would they do that?!? Hisssssss!

Years befur we were here, meowmy and pawppy helped a lot of strays, two of them even had their babies under our porch, so meowmy took care of them too.
Too bad the peeps do not properly lave and care fur their furs, makes us wonder how they care fur their furmilies...

Kudos to your Mommy, River.
Purred by: ☀ Charlie RIP ☀ (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 10:47 pm

Sending your momma purrs - it are hard. And purrs for Mr. Big too - it are hard being outside, waiting for food like dat. I know.
Purred by: River (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 11:14 pm

Just want to let everyone know, Mr Big just came by for his nightly din dins. Mommy peeked out the window around 10:30 and she saw his big scruffy fluffy butt and tail around the corner, nom nom noming away. She watched him for a little while and then went to do something, when she came back, he had gone off again for the night. Belly full of barbeque noms. He really is one big kitty. Too bad the nickname didn't help mommy, she still loves him, she just can't help herself.
Purred by: River (Catster Member)

March 11th 2013 at 11:16 pm

And one more thing from me and mommy, thank you everyone for understanding. Lots of us know what it's like to be Mr Big, and that's why this is so important to mommy. If someone hadn't bent down to scoop me and sisfur up when we were outside, we wouldn't be here. If no one had stopped to feed us, we would have starved. If no one had cared, we wouldn't be a family. That's why this matters. Because someone did it for me, and for sisfur, and for so many of you. You kitties know why this is so important.
Purred by: Noon (Catster Member)

March 12th 2013 at 10:15 am

Live trap him, set up an x-large plastic dog crate with a bed at the back, litter at the front, food, and water, Cover all but the front door of the crate with a blanket. Mr Big will feel safe hiding in the bed in the back of the crate. After you've trapped Mr. Big, shut the doors to the room the crate is in (just in case) and release him into the crate. Chances are he will spot the safe darkness of the crate and rush straight to the back of it and hide. He and your other cats will be able to see, hear, smell each other but not get together. By putting the litter at the front of the crate, you can clean it while Mr. Big hides in the back. I've found that most adult cats whether feral or house cats, settle down and accept being crated in two days or less. Hiding safely in the bed in the crate, Mr Big can gradually get used to everything about the indoor world. Whenever you come near the crate, talk to him softly. After he has calmed down some, get a small paper plate and put a small amount of canned food on it. Talking softly to him, open the crate door and put the food in so he sees you coming with it. At this point, do not try to touch him. Do not try to get too close to him. Just set the food down, close the door, and slowly walk away.
You've just taught Mr. Big that you can come, open the door, come close to him physically, and that he's still safe and also has a tasty treat.

To make this short, judge what you should do next by Mr. Big's reactions. If he comes toward you soliciting affection, give him a little then stop. See what he does. If he wants more, give him a little more. This helps avoid overstimulating him. As he adjusts you can remove the blanket from the sides of the front half of the crate and eventually remove the blanket altogether. When you reach a point where you want to try to let him out in the room, shut the doors, let him out into the room, and then when its time for him to go back into the crate, get the canned food and put some in the crate as an incentive and a message that "it's time to go home." I've had cats get to where they would escort me to the crate, ready for their canned food!

It may take anywhere from two months to a year to reasonably socialize a feral/stray cat depending on the cat's personality & prior experiences. But it can be done, it takes setting up a situation that makes the cat feel safe, and it takes time and patience.
Purred by: Platelicker ♥ DB#69 (Catster Member)

March 12th 2013 at 1:43 pm

Oh River that poem got my MamaCat cryin'. She, like most MCs, feeds outside kittehs too. She took 2 in last fall and we don't have room really, and more keep coming up and eating and drinking. It is all she can do... it just breaks her heart to think of them hungry or thirsty...

Huggs to yer Mommy xoxo
Platelicker, GAGA and PurrFamily
Purred by: Blizzard AKA The Catfather (Catster Member)

March 12th 2013 at 5:17 pm


Thank yous Moms for what she bees doin!!
Warms dis old cats heart.
Daddy's worried too, here
if he gets a job away, and wees moves, who looks out for his colony??
Purred by: KoKo (Catster Member)

March 12th 2013 at 6:11 pm

Mom knows the sadness your Mom feels. We had many Mr Bigs in our neighborhood. I am one of those kittys. So is my sis Xena.

Is there a group in your area that works with ferals?
Maybe he can be socialized.

We will purr for My Bigs and all the other feral kittys.

Purred by: River (Catster Member)

March 12th 2013 at 7:35 pm

WOW Noon! Thank you so much for taking the time to write up all that advice, that's a really good idea. That way at least Mr Big could have his own space to recover if we get him vetted at the very least. He shouldn't be too hard to trap, he's very trusting of the nom noms now, just easily spooked if you run into him outside. Thank you everyone else for all your kind purrs and support for me and mommy and the family. Daddy is very supportive of all this but this is mommy's crazy mission. Simone probably hates the idea, but she'll get over it, she's a strong meezer lady after all!
Purred by: River (Catster Member)

March 12th 2013 at 7:38 pm

Oh, and Koko, there are a few groups that work with ferals, but there are also some shelters that take them in. There's a group out here that adopts out 'barn cats' who can't be fully converted over to inside living but would like a nice home, the shelter me and sisfur came from has a feral enclosure off the side of the building where they can live in safety, and the local rescue zoo here maintains a feral cat exhibit with a lot of kitties in it. Like mommy said, we'd gladly pay for his yearly expenses, we'd just like him somewhere safer than here.
Purred by: Alex R

March 12th 2013 at 7:44 pm

Awww, River - we had to check to see where you live, in case we could tell you to drop Mr. Big off here at our colony, but CA is a bit far from MI! Of course, the good thing is that CA is alot warmer than here, so at least Mr. Big won't freeze. You know, you can only do what you can do. You're helping Mr. Big a great deal supplementing his diet. If you do have to move, if there's any sympathetic person in the neighborhood that might want to continue feeding him, you could maybe say something to them. Trapping him might not necessarily be the best, unless you were prepared to keep him crated for an extended period of time. Big hugs, guys!
Purred by: River (Catster Member)

March 12th 2013 at 8:15 pm

MOL! That WOULD be a long drive wouldn't it Samhain? Poor Mr Big! He'd probably hate that! Yeah, we don't want to force him inside if that's not what is best for him, like we said, there are some inside/outside feral colonies out here though we might try to see if we can get him a spot at one of them. He can live the feral life in a safe place with regular noms. This isn't a good place for kitties, lots of big fast roads all around, he can't really leave this island of apartments without crossing a 4 lane road. He spends a lot of time cowering places, mommy has seen him out and about a few times, he's always cowering. We would also really like to get him vetted, if it turns out he's all ready neutered, then he should be back inside with a family, if not, he needs to get fixed so there aren't any more of him out there! He doesn't have a tipped ear, so no one has taken care of him yet if he is a feral.
Purred by: Sonny Bono Angel Dreamboat-#34 (Catster Member)

March 19th 2013 at 3:35 am

Oh River, your mommie is an Angel from Heaven, God only sends his precious animals to those who actually have a heart and I know your mommie does, she sounds like mine, just pray about it and God will show you the right thing to do, as you can tell mommie has alot of faith, if it wasn't for the Lord she certainly wouldn't make it, just do your best and He will do the rest.
That poem broke her heart, mommie has a soft heart anyway but especially animals, a couple of years ago my daddie found a dead rabbit in our backyard, he came in and told mommie so she got a nice fluffy towel wrapped him up and daddie gave him a proper burial,that's just how they are, now he's running in Heaven with me and the other Angels, he even wants to drive my Hummer!!! your diary should have been DOTD. *Wraps wings around River and his precious mommie* Hugs Angel Sonny Bono~
Purred by: MILO BLUE EYES DB#73 (Catster Member)

March 19th 2013 at 6:00 am

Hey River dood! Sorry we missed dis diary, we been 'way from Catster fur a bit ona a time out. Seen ya got Diary Pick 'n wanted to send big Concats to ya'llz~! Yep we know's how spawcial 'n sweet 'n thoughtfur Ur mom 'n dad'z r really big hearted 'n good natured!!! so spawcial what U do fur ferals! We used to haz lotza ferals here too but not really anymore. Mom loved a feral dat lived on her porch 7 yrs 'go when her first moved here 'n now him in Heaven. She was so sad. Most o' us here now haz been 'dopted 'n haz permanent homes. Wishin' dis fur da feral kitties too. Purrs fur Mr Big. Wishin' 'n purrin' fur alla dem homeless kitties. Mom sez dat's why we're all called crazy cat ladies but not so much crazy jus' love's. We love's U too River 'n Simone 'n furmilies! Enjoy Bein' in da spotlight my grand furiend!!!
Purred by: Sugar our Sweet Brave Warrior (Catster Member)

March 19th 2013 at 7:01 am

That would make our mommy sad too. Your mom and dad are doing the best they can and more than a lot of humans would. We're gonna purr really hard for a miracle - they do happen you know. We BeliEVE.

Happy Concats on being a DDP today.

Purred by: Angel Midnight - DG #9 You wil (Catster Member)

March 19th 2013 at 5:29 pm

That is so sad, River. Sugar Bear is right your mom and dad are doing the best they can and more than a lot of humans would for sure. We also will purr very hard for a miracle...yes they do happen. We also believe.

Concats on being a DDP.
Purred by: Little Sweetie (Catster Member)

March 19th 2013 at 6:07 pm

Concats on yer DDP! Been reading all these posts. My mom does TNR work (our group just got a grant from Petsmart!) She took our first kitty of the year to get fixed this morning. We also feel so for Mr. Big! Noon wrote a fantastic plan. has some good tips on trapping kitties. Mom uses a drop box based on the one they show. She doesn't like snaptraps because she is usually assigned to momcats with kittens and worries about snaptraps hurting babies. She wishes she had known what Noon wrote before I got trapped. She would have tried to socialize me instead of letting me go back out. Hasn't seen me now since last fall keeps wondering what became of me. Wondering if yer mom might be able to borrow a trap from the local animal shelter or a TNR group. may be able to connect her with a TNR group in her area.
Purred by: WeBeesSiameezers (Catster Member)

March 19th 2013 at 6:26 pm

Hi, again River!
Once again hugs to your caring pawrents.
Others that meowmy knows might 'just let it be'...sigh...
Caring peeps always feel so hurt or sad, worried, etc...becuse they DO care. Thank your Mom again fur us.
Concats on being a DP, Diary Gal must hope that all is going to be OK with Mr Big.
Purrs & Hugs!
Pipo & Minko
Purred by: Skylar db#39A (Catster Member)

March 19th 2013 at 7:04 pm

Concats on your Diary Pick today! How is Mr. Big?

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