September 25th 2012 6:08 pm
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My brother Gumpy left us nearly two weeks ago. I’ve been sad and missing my brother, but I have a big job to do. I have to comfort our mom and I’ve been working hard at it. I’m snuggling with her all the time. At night and anytime she is sitting on the sofa, I’m right there curled up next to her or laying on her chest and shoulder. I need to try to help Mom feel better and not feel so empty and sad without Gumpy.
I DO understand what kind of a bond they had and what they meant to each other. I KNOW she feels very sad. I KNOW I can’t replace Gumpy, but I CAN love her in my own way. I am right next to her right now as she is typing my diary for me (I’m dictating, of course). She’s using the laptop on her lap and I’m right here. Mom says I was meant to find them almost four years ago.
We are working on finding a new kitty to bring into our lives. Mom says it’s a little weird to go and ‘pick out’ a cat since both Gumpy and I found our mom. I guess they call us “strays”. She’s going to take her time and see what feels right.
In addition to comforting her, Mom says I’m being such a good girl. I’m not being a Picky-Poo (what she calls me when I act picky about food) like I can be at times. I’m eating whatever she gives me. She even gave me some raw food that I’m eating.
There were a couple times during her grieving that Mom was so out-of-sorts that she forgot to feed me. But don’t worry, I’m fine - I’m well fed and I get good food. Mom was really disoriented not having Gumpy here to take care of.
I miss my brother and I will always love him. I'm grateful he accepted me into this family. I hope Gumpy is happy seeing that I am here for Mom and doing my best to comfort her.
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Nadi, you are such a sweet girl to take care of and comfort your Mommy. She needs you now more than ever. I'm sure this is a big adjustment period for both of you ~ take good care of each other!
Love & Big Hugs,
Natasha and Mommy
You are such a good girl Nadia. Keep taking care of Mom! I'm glad you have each other to lean on, you probably miss him very much too.
Our mom chuckled about your mom forgetting to feed you. You are obviously a nicer cat than any of what Dad terms 'the fur crowd' here. If mommy or daddy forget to feed us, we'be probably:
1) not let them sleep till they did...
2) bite them to remind them
3)knock tings off everything...
4) yowl, cry, wake them up at 4am
oh wait, we do that if breakfast is even 5 minutes late....
We understand about your mom missing Gumpy and you having to take over the loving duties...we split it up here amoung ourselves, and everyone takes turns.
I think it's good to have brofurs and sisfurs...it keeps us and our pawrents busy.
We are sending you lots of love and purrs. You are a lovely little cat.
We, too, MOL'ed at the furgot to be fed...our auntie did that once to her fur, but the fur is still here, many years later, MOL!
Thank you fur knowing what to do fur your Mom, and fur helpning her in so many ways. We know that you will listen well, to Gumpy when he has found the 'right' kitty to send to your Mom,,and then you will tell your Mom that its time.
Purrs & Hugs!
Oh Nadia, you are such a good girl sweetheart. You're a godsend to your mom, I'm sure of it. If she didn't have you she'd go nuts!
Hi Weebees and Ruffy, Heehee, it was a little funny when she forgot about feeding me! It happened a few times right after Gumpy passed. I'm a purrty patient girl and I knew it was something related to Mom feeling so bad about Gumpy. I'm also a forgiving kitty, so I wasn't too worried.
Ruffy, that's funny about you and the fur crowd. You mean you kitties aren't Picky-Poos?
Hi Natasha and Skylar, thank you!
Yes, Mom thinks I am a godsend. Thank you Lacey.
I'm glad I can be here for her.
Momma says that kitties are the best medicine, and you are doing a great job! I know that when my momma is sad, I always try to sit by her - us kitties just "know" when we are needed the most. And I bet that your Momma is making you feel better too, as you are also grieving. We all send you many hugs & purrs. Don't worry, Gumpy will send you in the right direction for a kitty. He knows. purrs
Kitties know when our MamaCats are sad or worried or don't feel good. We do : )
Take good care of yer Momma : )
OMC, you poor,poor thing! To lose your bro and have your mom so sad. One thing she could do is get a kitten. They will make a person belly-laugh at least once a day, and it will keep her occupied, but only moderately.
Meanwhile, you are in our thoughts and purrayers!! Luv, Tink & Snow
Dear Nadi, my lovely, what a sweet girl you are being. And not being a picky-poo is good too. Can you tell Gris to quit being one..he's so lanky. Just keep loving on her..it's good for both of you.
Jen- Who knows maybe a stray will walk up to you between now and then. Otherwise taking your time is the right way to go about it. You know even at the shelter the cat will let you know that they choose you. When Mom got Joe he was to be put down the next day and Mom said I've got to hold him. At this point Mom had been there looking at all the cats for 30 some minutes and not seeing THE ONE. She pulls Joe (the quite reserved one out of the whole batch) he felt right in her arms and then it happened. He reached up touched her nose with his paw and buried his head between her body and arm. She knew he felt comfortable with her. Mom being the all time believer in fate she believed he had not been picked out all that time at the shelter cause he was supposed to be with her and dad. And also he was a solid black and some people are still leery about solid black cats. Mom says they are good luck to the ones they love.
And like me, for instance, I was a tuxxie kitten in a pile of orangie kittens. As Mom said I stood out like a sore thumb, she couldn't help but notice me. And when she picked me up and seen the two buttons on my stomach she said it was a done deal right there. That night instead of being in that cage I was riding in a box for 30 min. in a noisy 81 transam in the rain(crappy wipers those cars have) to grandma and grandpas house. Where they were eagerly waiting to meet me. I was then introduced to Zoe and Thunder Bunny for the first time. I slept with Mom and Dad wrapped up in the security of my new forever home. This is why I always say Gotcha Days are better than Birthdays. It truly was the first day of my life.
You are doing a great job, Nadi! We know you are missing Gumpy, too, and you need the security of your Mama as much as she needs you, I bet. When the time is right, the right kitten or cat will show up for you. But in case you're in a hurry, I'd be happy to ship you Fearless! Just kidding, Mama - I was just kidding!
Good work, Nadia! A Bridge journey leaves a huge hole in a household, but even the smallest cat has enough love to fill it up. You keep on comforting Mom. We're sending purrs to help out.
Hey pretty girl I am posting on this old diary because we were thinking of you and your family today and wanted you to know I did just what you did after our dog "lassie" went to the RB and mom missed her so bad she had her way before I came along and I missed her too. It did comfort mom for me to be there for her. 1 year after I was gone mom still cried when she thought of me, and now if she is not careful she will do it again after almost 5 yrs without me. but it doesn't hurt nearly as bad now. Mom knows Booboo really helped her after I was gone.
love skids kitty angel and family