March 2nd 2010 3:45 pm
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I've been a confused kitten lately. Who am I? What is my role in my family?
Lucy doesn't seem to like me, even though she gives me all the signs that she wants to play. The other night I just wanted to curl up next to her but she said "NO!" with a big smacky paw.
Leo still loves me but our brotherly relationship is changing. I was always the big, feisty brother. I got first dibs on toys, food, and sleeping spots. I was definitely in charge. But lately, Leo's decided that if he's playing with a toy, he's not going to let me come and take it! And if I'm playing with a toy and he wants it, he just comes and takes it! It surprises me to see Leo with such confidence and it's confusing. Who's the HOH in our house?
My relationship with Sophie hasn't changed; she's still really big so I steer clear of her unless I get the zoomies and I make a couple of ninja moves in her directions. But I always run away right after!
I love my mommy but I don't like to be petted for very long. I'm still kind of bitey and I try to smack her sometimes. But other times, I knead and nurse on her and I sleep all curled up next to her, every night.
Sometimes I feel feisty! Sometimes I feel sweet and cuddly! And sometimes I feel really confused, especially with Lucy.
Still trying to figure it all out......
Contemplative bonks, Charlie
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*Scratches his chin hairs and ponders...
While I'm glad that Leo is confident enough to be assertive about his *rights* to a toy. I didn't expect this 'dynamic shift' just yet. I actually thought that maybe as you two grew closer to 3 years old, that you might see a 'power play' from Leo. Who by then just might have decided that maybe he isn't going to be so 'easy.'
You are both growing up... Look at your handsome man cat faces. You're both nearing a year old, you're still 'adolescents' though. It's in the coming years that things will define themselves more clearly for you.
I like being petted much longer than I did when I first got here. I still suspect you'll come around that way too. The biting... I'm not so sure that that will ever completely leave. (If my tummy is stroked and I'm NOT in the mood, I'll rabbit kick first and then bite - even now) But gone are the days where I bite just from being overstimulated from too much petting.
Like yourself, I was a 'smacker' of humans too. It's all part of figuring out who you can boss around and how.
Around the time I turned 4 I wasn't much of a human smacker anymore.
I too, have my sweet, needy, affectionate side. But I like it on *my* terms. When I want it - I want it and when I don't I don't. I still do my "Goodnight chest sit" on my Angel every night. (if I'm sleeping on the chair behind the computer. When she stands up and prepares to go to the bedroom, I race in there before her, so that I'm already there and waiting when she walks in.)
Then she wiggles under the covers and I take my place on her chest. She pets me and I purr and stare at her, until she falls asleep....
I even cuddled on the UNO's lap the other day. (what's going on?!)
About Lucy? Who can figure out girls? I sure can't. They're good at giving mixed signals.
I wouldn't be surprised if you have a HOH by Committee - maybe sometimes it's Lucy, other times it's Leo and other times it's you. In order to live together, you have to work out some *deal* right?!
Your house sounds sort of like our house. Callie and I seem to trade off who's head of household, dependingon the day.
You're still young, so I'm sure that you'll find your place sooner or later. I think at this point it's just a matter of figuring out what you do and don't like and learning how to communicate that to your Mom.
Good luck Charlie, I know you'll find your place in the family.
Charlie being young has it's challenges and as you grow older you grow more wiser. Part of growing up is finding your place in the world. I know you'll find your rightful place in world it may just take a little time.
As for Lucy girls are mystery to me and one you may never solve. The only girls I know are my Mum and my Grandma and I love them both very much. Lucy will come around eventually just like all good things give her time.
Aw Charlie! I'm so sorry you are feeling a little lost and catfused. :~( I think where you fit in is in Charlie's place! There is only one Charlie and he is a furry special boy.
I don't know much about hierarchies... mommy read once that kitties are happier when it is clear who is "top cat." So then mommy tried to figure out (after 13 years! MOL!) who was "top cat!" She neffur did. But we both have our place and we both know we are loved. And you are too sweet Charlie.