Its been 5 weeks but still unable to pet the new cat

My elderly friend was given a two year old cat because her owner was moving away. The previous owner got her as a 4 week old kitten. It's been five weeks and my friend still can't pet this cat. She stays hidden all the time. She sneaks out to eat, drink and use the litter box then hides away again. Any advice?

Asked by Member 1229005 on Aug 25th 2014 Tagged socialization, afraid, hides, newhome in Fears & Phobias
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Have you tried a feliway diffuser in the house? Or even a few drops of (Pets) rescue remedy in the water bowl? The Pet one doesn't have any alcohol in it. The cat would be grieving and not understanding why it's world has been tipped upside down. Good luck. Also, Have you also tried to enticed it out with a toy on a string? Good luck

♥Sam answered on 8/25/14. Helpful? Yes/Helpful: No 0 Report this answer


She's most likely scared and confused at the sudden change of everything she had previously known. Are there plenty of cat friendly things to do for her in the house? A selection of toys, treats, scratching posts, cat furniture, things that may entice her to come out from hiding? You did mention the new owner was elderly so I understand he/she may not have the mobility to get down to the cat's level to talk to it and try to coax kitty away from her hiding place.

I would try to leave a treat outside of the hiding place every day, placing one farther and farther away from where she's camped out each day and moving her closer to whichever room your friend spends the most time in. Perhaps once the treats finally lead to her new owner she may come to understand that there is nothing to be afraid of and she has a new pal waiting for her to come around!

Best of luck!

Willow answered on 8/28/14. Helpful? Yes/Helpful: No 0 Report this answer

Orion Hemingway

Try calming spray where she hangs out, and give her at least a month and a half to adjust. She probably explores the home at night. This cat has been through a traumatic experience of changing owners twice. Try toys, scratchers, a tall cat condo, treats like Greenies for enticing her, and lots of patience. You can also play mellow or classical music for her during the day while you are out. She may be shy, just give her a chance to come out of her shell! --PNS for The Nutro Company, Franklin, TN

Orion Hemingway answered on 9/25/14. Helpful? Yes/Helpful: No 0 Report this answer